Three important decisions you take each moment, control your future.

They define what you perceive, feel, do, and, eventually, what you contribute and what kind of person you will become. If you don’t control these three decisions, you won’t be able to control your life. Once you control them, you will begin to sculpt the experience of your existence.

The three important decisions that control your future are:

  1. What you will focus on
  2. How you will interpret the circumstances
  3. What you will do to achieve the desired result

Thus, what you will become is not determined by what’s happening to you right now or has happened in your past. Instead, your future is determined by the following factors: where you choose to focus, how you interpret things and what you do.

If someone is more successful than you in any area, this means that he takes different decisions than you in the same circumstances or in the same situation.

Obviously, Ed Roberts has chosen to focus on something completely different from those who were in the same position with him. He focused on finding a way to improve the lives of people with disabilities. The disabilities were a “challenge” for him and he chose to do whatever will help those who were in the same situation. He devoted himself entirely to the formation of an environment that would improve the quality of life of all people with disabilities.

I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.

– Henry David Thoreau

Most people do not consciously take most of their decisions, especially these three critical and important decisions -and pay dearly. In fact, they are experiencing the “syndrome of Niagara.” Life is like a river, and most dive into it without really decide where they want to reach. So, after a while, they drifted by the stream of events and challenges. When they are encountering places where the river branches, they don’t consciously decide where they want to go or what is the right direction for them. They just ‘follow the flow’.

Thus, they become part of the mass of people driven from their environment rather than their values. As a result, they have the illusion that they have control of their lives. They remain in this unconscious state until one day the furious sound of water awakens and they discover that they are in a boat without oars, two meters from the edge of Niagara Falls.

At that moment, they shout: “Oh no!” But it’s too late -and falling. Sometimes the fall is emotional, while other times is physical or financial. Maybe you could avoid any challenges you are facing right now in your life if you had taken better decisions when you were still in the calm area of the river.


  2. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!, Tony Robbins

Motivation can be hard to come by, especially in the face of challenges or difficult work.

When you’re thinking about implementing that new idea, or starting that new company or beginning that new regimen — this is the new year, after all — it’s easy to talk yourself into procrastinating. Or worse, avoiding your goal altogether.

Thoughts are powerful, and negative thoughts can prevent you from achieving your goals. The flip side is that positive thoughts can be just as powerful. The next time you feel unmotivated, use any of these 50 positive thoughts to reenergize yourself. Really: They work!

1. I can do anything. It’s a simple phrase, but it helps to remind yourself — you really can do anything you set your mind to.

2. This is why I can. Instead of giving yourself reasons why you can’t do something, give yourself reasons why you can.

3. I deserve more. You deserve a better life — whether that means a better job, a healthier body or more money. Work for it.

4. It’s never too late. No matter how old you are or how many opportunities you’ve passed up before, it’s never too late to make a decision and get a fresh start.

5. There will always be challenges. No matter what you do in life, there will always be challenges — don’t let one set get the better of you.

6. There’s no “perfect” time. If you’re waiting for the perfect moment, forget about it — there’s no such thing.

7. There’s no perfect plan. There are some definite flaws in your plan — but there are in every plan.

8. Everybody starts somewhere. Nobody is born successful. Everyone starts somewhere, and usually from the bottom.

9. One step at a time. Don’t try to do everything at once. Reduce it to baby steps.

10. It can only get better. If it’s hard at first, it can only get easier.

11. Failure is temporary. If you fail, you’re in good company — most successes come only after several rounds of failure.

12. Mistakes are learning opportunities. If you mess up, you can only become better for it.

13. Today is all I can control. Forget about what you did yesterday. Today is what matters.

14. If it were easy, everyone would do it. Nothing worth doing is easy.

15. “Someday” is today. If you’re like most people, you use the word “someday” to describe your goals and desires. Make today that someday.

16. Negative thoughts can’t stop me. Your negative thoughts are just thoughts — nothing more.

17. I’ve done harder things. Think back to a time when you succeeded against the odds.

18. Everything has to be earned. You can’t get anything in this life unless you work hard for it.

19. Action is a better regret than inaction. Making the wrong decision is always preferable to regretting never having done anything at all.

20. I don’t need anyone’s permission. If people think you’re crazy, so be it.

21. I’m in control of my own destiny. You can decide whom you want to become.

22. There is no pass or fail. Nobody is grading you. You can’t objectively “fail” at life unless you never try anything.

23. Boring decisions get boring results. Make an exciting decision.

24. The risk is worth it. Know that risks are real, but the potential benefits are worth them.

25. Discipline feels better than regret. Discipline is hard, but it’s easier to deal with than regret.

26. Many good ideas seem crazy or impossible at first. Yours is no different.

27. I’ve got support. Friends, family, colleagues — even if they think you’re crazy, you can always find support in networking groups, support groups and other community resources.

28. Experience is always valuable. Even if your mission doesn’t turn out the way you’d expected, you’ll walk away with experience.

29. Hard work is its own reward. You’ll feel good just for making the attempt.

30. Every day counts. Today, tomorrow and the next day are all steps toward your end goal.

31. What I see matters more than what others see. Forget about what others think — prioritize what you think.

32. There is no problem that can’t be overcome. Everything can be solved or worked around.

33. Ordinary actions make an ordinary life. Nobody wants to be ordinary. Don’t let yourself be.

34. Everything can be improved. Even if you start out rough, you can always make improvements to your approach.

35. I can learn whatever I need to know. Free resources are plentiful.

36. I can master whatever I need to do. Practice can make you good at anything.

37. Willpower is all in my head. You can have all the willpower you want — you just have to want it.

38. I know what I want. Know what your end goals are, and visualize them.

39. Feelings are the product of thoughts. If you’re scared or unsure, know that these are feelings generated by your thoughts; then you can control them.

40. Trying and failing is better than doing nothing. This is universally true.

41. I am whomever I want to be. There’s nothing stopping you from being whom you want to be.

42. I can’t win unless I try. Effort is the only way to get results.

43. My life is a product of my decisions. Make the ones that matter.

44. I’m better than I was yesterday. You’re older, wiser and more experienced than you’ve ever been before.

45. Nothing great happens overnight. Work and patience are your friends.

46. Once I get started, it will be easier. You’ll feel more motivated once you get rolling.

47. I’ll reward myself when I’m done. Even small rewards can be great motivators.

48. I’m doing this for more than just me. Maybe it’s for your family or community — whatever “it” is, external motivation can be powerful.

49. There are always more chances. If you screw up, you can always try again.

50. If nothing else, this will make for a good story. You’ll walk away with great memories and interesting anecdotes.

The power of positive thinking isn’t just an adage — it’s scientifically proven that positive thoughts (and the elimination of negative self-talk) can improve your mood, feelings, and performance. These thoughts should get you started doing whatever it is you need motivation to do. The rest is up to you.

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Most people are aware that our brains operate in two general ways – the conscious and the subconscious.

The conscious mind controls our regular, day to day activities. Things like driving a car, writing down a note, or eating your food are all controlled by the conscious mind. Your brain sends direct instructions to your muscles to take certain actions.

The subconscious mind is a much more mysterious place. It is hard to put ones finger on exactly what it does, because by definition it is acting behind the scenes. We know the subconscious mind holds incredible power over our actions, but exactly what all it can influence is something of a mystery.

This article will present you with four lesser known secrets of the subconscious mind.

It ‘Steals’ from the Conscious Mind

When we said that driving a car is controlled by the conscious mind that should have come with a disclaimer. When you first start out, driving is an activity that your conscious mind controls. As you gain experience, however, that actions that driving requires start to slip into the subconscious. You no longer require conscious thought to use the clutch, shift gears, or signal a lane change. All of those things become second nature, and as such are controlled by the subconscious. By extension, you could say that anything, given time and practice, could be moved successfully from the conscious to the subconscious mind.

It Drives Our Behaviors

If you stop and take a close look at your daily life, you will be amazed at how many decisions you actually make throughout the day. Things that you never even give a moment’s pause to consider are actually decisions being made by your subconscious mind. Something like deciding to brush your teeth before bed is a great example. If you habitually brush your teeth before bed, it will soon become a subconscious activity. You likely don’t stop and consider the pro and cons of teeth brushing before getting out your toothbrush. In fact, your conscious mind is likely other places while your subconscious guides you through the motions of getting your teeth brushed.

It Gives Us Belief

Often when faced with a challenging or nerve-wracking situation, it is our subconscious mind that comes through to tell us we can do it. As we go through life, our subconscious is accumulating memories of times when we have succeeded and storing them for use later on. Even if you are faced with a situation that you have never encountered before, your subconscious can push you on because it remembers times when you have conquered a new obstacle. For this reason it is important to consistently place yourself in uncomfortable positions that require you to call on your self-belief. Each time you rise to the occasion that subconscious confidence grows even further. Before long, you will have built a base of self-assurance that can get you through any new challenge.

It Can Be Accessed Through Meditation

While the subconscious is a hard thing pinpoint, you can get much closer to it through a regular practice of meditation. When you meditate, your mind is able to cut through all of the ‘noise’ of daily life and find peace within. In those peaceful moments is when you will be able to strongly feel what your subconscious is telling you. If you are not happy with the messages your subconscious sends you throughout the day, use meditation to dig deeper and uncover what the true issues may be. From there, you will feel the power to re-program your subconscious mind and lead it in a direction that is more productive and useful toward your goals in life.

if you know any other secrets of the subconscious mind, feel free to share in the comments below!

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Nobody will make you feel good about yourself if you don’t believe in yourself first, and nobody will break down the image you have for yourself, if you are sure of how capable and strong you are. Self-confidence is your most valuable weapon and the starting point for each movement and step.

The moments you feel that your confidence is “hurted” are the moments where you feel weaker, and the moments that you stand firmly on your feet are the moments where your confidence is solid. A solid confidence is the ticket to the life that you are destined to do. It is important not to let it at low levels because with it, you fall too low also.

How can you keep your morale and self-confidence high?

Here are some important tips that will help you regain your self-confidence:

Believe In Yourself

Believe in yourself, because what you think about yourself is exactly what you are. The power of your mind is greater than you believe and your self-esteem is affected much more from your mind rather than your real strengths and capabilities. The moment you realize that your forces are more and bigger than you think, will be the moment you feel more liberated, confident and stronger than ever.

Live Your Life as Only YOU Know

Live your life with the unique way that only you can live it. Do not try to impersonate someone else, because you will surely fail. Do not camouflage yourself to look like the people around you, because again you will fail and you will lose your time and life to something fruitless and futile.

If you were a lion, you wouldn’t pretend to be a sheep because firstly it’s impossible, and, secondly, it has no meaning. The fact that you resemble in appearance to other people, that you have two hands and two feet, does not mean that you are the same with them. Don’t try to imitate anyone and don’t expect anyone to imitate you. You are unique, like everyone else.

Be Authentic

Most times in life, we pretend to be something else, considering that this “something else” makes people love us, and the more loved is this “other self”, the more we forget the genuine self. Find – as long as you need to do, your real self and stay credible to him. It’s not something easy, and as the years passing, it’s more likely to have been “covered” with a bunch of masks, but it’s worth, more than anything, the fatigue and effort.

Try for one week to dress, treat and act the way you truly feel and your means let you and you will see that your confidence will rise sharply, and your smile from the freedom that you feel will go up to the sky.

Accept Yourself

Love yourself first and then others, accept your reality and everything will seem more normal, even if you are completely different from the average. Nobody is born perfect and nobody has found happiness by not first accepting who really is. Realize your truth and once you succeed on that, you will have confidence and strength to achieve anything you want and crave in your life, because you will be aware until where your limits are.

Watch: The Vibration of Love

Do Not Disappoint Yourself

Losing a fight (e.g. failing in a job) is in the “schedule”. But to start like a loser from a low self-esteem is the greatest betrayal that you can commit against yourself. Your self-confidence and self-esteem are the most powerful weapons against the circumstances and if you always start like a loser, then you definitely will never go out winner. Do not disappoint yourself by believing what others say, as they consciously or unconsciously trying to discourage you. The little voice inside you is stronger than any other voice from the outside.

Make Big Plans

You determine your life and the course you will have on this planet, so do not ever start your movements tentatively and with fear because until there you will manage to reach. Aim high and if you don’t succeed you will get a valuable lesson. In any event you will be winner and definitely more powerful.


I love Will Smith. His movies are awesome. His acting is great and you know something? He’s an inspiring dude.

He’s not just some celebrity. He’s a goldmine of inspiration and intelligence.

You’d be surprised how much you can learn from him when it comes to living your life your own way to attain the success you deserve.

Here are 9 quotes by Will Smith to inspire you to live life your own way:

1) “Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.”

That really puts fear in perspective eh?

Just imagine that fear is a separate entity altogether. And then you can do anything you want with it.

Mostly, just throw it away.

2) “If you’re absent during my struggle, don’t expect to be present during my success.”

That’s the thing about people and so-called friends. So many people care not for your journey to success.

They only see the success and what it can do for them.

So be very wary. The people who are not around during your struggles are not really your friends. The ones who are are the ones who will stick to you forever.

The former aren’t doing you any favors. So chug them!

3) “Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people – the ones who really belong in your life – will come to your. And stay.”

Yep! Be yourself. CHASE yourself!

The rest, will take care of itself.

4)  “Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings & emotions.”

In other words, these people don’t matter, at all.

Focus on the other important ones instead.

5) “Money & success don’t change people; they merely amplify what is already there.”

First of all, don’t chase money and success. It doesn’t work that way.

The money and success you eventually gain won’t change your life. It’ll only make it easier.

So with that in mind, never doubt yourself. Be confident, even without the money or status.

6) “Life isn’t how many breaths you take, but it’s the moments that take your breath away.”

Because you shouldn’t just live to function.

You should live to be excited, passionate, happy and of course, have tons of fun.

There’s a time limit on those breaths by the way.

7) “Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”

That is how people end up in debt.

Stop trying to please everybody. You can’t. It’s impossible.

Stop aiming to meet the expectations of others’. Only yours matter.

And stop spending so much on luxuries. They can only make you happy for so long.

8) “The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is, I am not afraid to die on a treadmill. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things.

You are getting off first. Or I am going to die. It’s that simple.”

Watch this on YouTube in one of his interviews.

This is to me is about simple confidence and determination.

Forget being realistic or “faking it till you make it.”

For once, psyche yourself. Just be.

9) “If you’re not making someone’s life better, you’re wasting your time.”

Because way too many of us always chase things just for ourselves.

That’s normal, but here’s the twist: Sometimes in life, if you want to feel better yourself, you just have to help others.

Perhaps a time for all of us to look in the mirror.

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About the author

Alden Tan keeps it real at his blog and writes about motivation in unconventional ways. His two main passions are Bboying and writing.

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