Have you ever wondered why you can’t change your life?

Do you begin to make a positive change and then slip back into old habits? Read on to find out why…

Before we discuss the main subject, let’s talk about the function of your subconscious mind for a minute. Its purpose is to create mental programs and habits which allow your mind to run on autopilot. From basic programs like breathing, all the way up to how we speak, how we stand, even how we eat. And for your subconscious, the more programs it has the better. If there is a program for a certain situation that is stored in your mind, your subconscious feels safe. It has experienced that thing before and knows the parameters and how it should act in that situation.

Your Subconscious Doesn’t Like Change

Because of this, the subconscious mind abhors change. All change is viewed as uncharted territory and therefore dangerous. And it will do everything in its power to stop this change from manifesting in your life, purely out of fear and self-preservation.

Have you ever been so anxious about trying something new that you were shaking at the thought of it? If you have, yet still pushed yourself to do this thing, you will remember the absolute relief that comes over you after you’ve done it for the first time. That terror is the subconscious trying to hold you back, trying to keep you from progressing, without realizing it. Yet as soon as you have completed something new, just once, the subconscious has a program it can draw upon and most of the anxiety will have dissipated at this point.

How to Make your Subconscious Stop Holding you Back

Now the ‘new thing’ that you are trying to achieve may be an emotional or non-physical state. Such as happiness, health or success. Even so, your subconscious will still treat it as uncharted territory and therefore dangerous. The key to getting past this is to simply push on, hard though it may be. Keep going, keep trying, keep succeeding and you will shock your subconscious into creating a new mental image of itself. A mental image that is successful, intelligent and progressing in life. Every success you have along the way will help the subconscious in believing you are a successful person.

Allow me to explain. Picture a set of scales in your mind. Every time you push through the barrier and achieve what you set out to achieve, whether big or small, one ‘success coin’ is placed on the right side of the scale. The more you achieve, the more coins you collect and the easier it is to push the scale in your direction, until the scales literally tip to your advantage and success becomes the default mental program for you.

After this happens, you won’t have to work as hard to achieve your goals and as soon as you’ve set your mind on something, it’s almost guaranteed to manifest for you. The most impressive change I have experienced with this ‘tipping of the scales’ is how much confidence you will suddenly have. Nothing seems insurmountable anymore, your perspective will completely change and you will actually welcome challenges due to the fact that you know you can achieve them and achieving things feel good.

Watch: Remove Subconscious Blockages

Below are some suggestions which will help you in manifesting this change:

  • Always keep a positive mental attitude -If something goes wrong, change your plan, not your goal and try not to be frustrated or disheartened by the little things.
  • Always keep your end goal in mind -Repeat it to yourself throughout the day, remind yourself why you are working so hard.
  • Always push yourself to try new things -Repetition and experience is how the subconscious learns. Try new things, succeed at them and move on to the next step.

So keep your head up high, keep pushing on, keep working towards your dreams. For once you have achieved one, like a domino effect, you will naturally achieve the rest. Take back control of your mind. Change your life!

How can you develop a mindset of abundance?

There is enough for everyone in this world. The future is as bright as we want it to be. Things can seem to be bad when we focus on poverty, hunger, overconsumption and overpopulation. Being in a mindset of scarcity, of only saving money, of holding on to resources, believing that there is all kinds of lack, will attract more lack. Bring change by shifting your focus, by changing your paradigm, by having a mindset of abundance instead of scarcity.

Mindset of Abundance vs Mindset of Scarcity

Sure you have felt abundant in your lifetime. The feeling that good things seem to just come to you and happen for you is accompanying a mindset of abundance. Maybe it was a period where you were giving a lot, and noticed that you did not lack anything yourself. Perhaps you went on a winning streak in poker. Or a friend of yours attracts women effortlessly? All of these are a result of an abundant state of being. If you can feel that you have something, you will attract more of it.

A mindset of scarcity is the opposite. Life will confirm to you the scarcity you are expecting to see. By thinking that you cannot, you cannot. Your experience is a projection of your perspective. By focusing on all the things you can’t do e.g. due to not having enough money, not enough time, not enough skills, a lack of physical ability and so on you will spiral downward. Turn this around before you get into the downward spiral.

You can. Abundance is everywhere.

Commercials and media can help create a belief that we need more, we need to do more and become more. That we don’t already have enough. If we could just get that thing or do that thing that we saw someone have or do, we would be a little bit better. Relax and don’t engage in this chase. Just be. Content. Abundant. Naturally.

Our Civilization

Whether we know about every crime, every war, every corrupt person or group or have been raised without any news at all, we still have the same potential for creating a new earth. By being happy. By following our hearts. By knowing abundance. There are a lot of positive and magnificent feats the human race have managed to accomplish.

Peter H. Diamandis and Steven Kotler wrote the book Abundance: The Future Is Better Than You Think. It was published in 2012 and debuted at #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list. The book envisions a future where 9 billion people have access to clean water, food, energy, health care, education, and everything else that is necessary for a first world standard of living, all thanks to technological innovation. The book is a great example of one of the infinite ways in which abundance can play out.

The book has some really good points and is recommended for anyone looking for a positive perspective on how we humans can use science and technology to create a new earth. Technologies in computing, energy and medicine are improving at an exponential rate and allow independent innovators to achieve what today seems like impossible feats with little money or manpower.

How to Shift into Abundance

Knowing that you are abundant and that life is abundance is a great paradigm to be in. There are many ways you can shift your mindset into one of abundance. Here are some:

Get in the Mindset of “I Can”

Find a way in your mind to see that you can do everything, or at least that you could if you really wanted to. Get creative and see that you are able to think of ways in which you could do whatever it might be.

Think of Everything You Could Buy with Your Money

If you have a certain amount of money, i.e. 1000$, think of all the things you are able to afford with those 1000$. Two weeks on vacation? You could probably afford that. What else? Go skydiving a couple of times, buy a really good bike, etc.

Think in terms of using 1000$ for each of the things you want, like you have an unlimited number of that amount. By doing this you get into an abundant mindset without actually spending anything.

Be Grateful

By taking a few minutes to contemplate what you are most grateful for you get into a positive state where you focus on appreciating what you already have. By putting gratitude out into the universe, you will attract even more positivity into your life.

Give

Help out someone who is in greater need than you. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, or donate to charity. You can also give to someone that has more than you or a friend of yours. Give compliments, or smiles! Free hugs!

I share this information with you, abundant with tips on how to realize you are abundant, from my abundant creative mind. I also used the abundant resource “the internet”, and as knowledge and books are abundant I got inspired by one of those as well. Inspiration is really abundant. I hope this sparked some feelings of abundance in you!

H/T: Global Harmony Crew

We carry memories of our past experiences around with us like baggage. If we’re lucky, some of these memories bring us joy or laughter. But more often than not, we carry memories of negative, hurtful experiences.

New research suggests that humiliation is the strongest human emotion. Can you remember the last time you felt embarrassed? I certainly can. But carrying around negative emotions, especially those that accompany bad experiences, has a profound impact on how we act in the present.

Whether we realize that’s what we’re doing or not, this baggage can prevent us from moving forward in our personal and professional lives. It’s hard work to consciously try to rid ourselves of the emotions and sentiments that don’t serve us, but it’s worth the effort.

These are the four things entrepreneurs should try to rid themselves of:

1. Self-doubt

…is like the flu: At some point, we’re all going to have to endure it. Unfortunately, many of us experience self-doubt from a very early age. I’m not tall enough. I’m not good-looking enough. Maybe you were picked last in gym class. Maybe you weren’t. It doesn’t really matter. Even the most self-confident people are plagued by bouts of self-doubt. Just the other week, the cover story of The Atlantic discussed that even the most powerful, successful women feel like they’re inadequate — and maybe even imposters.

Self-doubt rears its ugly head in particular when we try new things. Maybe you think you’re not smart enough to break out on your own. Maybe you feel like you don’t have the right skills. It helps to acknowledge self-doubt for what it is. Call it out. Recognize it. Don’t be afraid of it. Once you acknowledge that’s what you’re feeling, it has less power over you. Self-doubt is just a feeling: You can still act even if you feel it. Ask for help. Better still, consciously try to abandon memories that made you feel less than. They’re holding you back from doing your best.

2. What’s “appropriate” for your age

Your state of mind is so much more important than your biological age. I firmly believe there’s no such thing as being “too old” or “too young” when it comes to being an entrepreneur. Don’t let memories of others judging you for your age hold you back. Those people are just projecting their own insecurities. Be inspired by people for whom age is nothing but a number — because really, that’s all it is.

Watch: Be a Successful Entrepreneur

3. Your fear of the unknown

In my experience, situations never turn out quite like I spent time thinking they might. We carry around fear of the unknown so tightly. It doesn’t make much sense to me. How can we be afraid of what we do not know? Many people spend so much time trying to predict or control the future that they don’t do anything at all. What are you waiting for? We don’t have control over what happens, but we do have control over our emotions. Choose to be brave and feel good. Have the courage to take the first step. It’s just one!

4. Your accomplishments

I see it all the time. Yes, you did that! But you can’t stop now. Entrepreneurship is not for those who want to rest on their laurels. You will achieve so much more if you greet every day like the new day that it is. No one cares about what you did. They want to see and know what you’re capable of now. What did you achieve today? What opportunities did you seek out? Live in the present. Even carrying around the memories of your accomplishments can prevent you from moving forward if you hold on to them too tightly.

What other feelings could hold you back from achieving your highest potential? Share your thoughts below!

Original source: Entrepreneur

About the author

Stephen Key is an inventor, author, speaker and co-founder of InventRight, LLC., a Glenbrook, Nev.-based company that educates entrepreneurs in how to bring ideas to market.

Three important decisions you take each moment, control your future.

They define what you perceive, feel, do, and, eventually, what you contribute and what kind of person you will become. If you don’t control these three decisions, you won’t be able to control your life. Once you control them, you will begin to sculpt the experience of your existence.

The three important decisions that control your future are:

  1. What you will focus on
  2. How you will interpret the circumstances
  3. What you will do to achieve the desired result

Thus, what you will become is not determined by what’s happening to you right now or has happened in your past. Instead, your future is determined by the following factors: where you choose to focus, how you interpret things and what you do.

If someone is more successful than you in any area, this means that he takes different decisions than you in the same circumstances or in the same situation.

Obviously, Ed Roberts has chosen to focus on something completely different from those who were in the same position with him. He focused on finding a way to improve the lives of people with disabilities. The disabilities were a “challenge” for him and he chose to do whatever will help those who were in the same situation. He devoted himself entirely to the formation of an environment that would improve the quality of life of all people with disabilities.

I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.

– Henry David Thoreau

Most people do not consciously take most of their decisions, especially these three critical and important decisions -and pay dearly. In fact, they are experiencing the “syndrome of Niagara.” Life is like a river, and most dive into it without really decide where they want to reach. So, after a while, they drifted by the stream of events and challenges. When they are encountering places where the river branches, they don’t consciously decide where they want to go or what is the right direction for them. They just ‘follow the flow’.

Thus, they become part of the mass of people driven from their environment rather than their values. As a result, they have the illusion that they have control of their lives. They remain in this unconscious state until one day the furious sound of water awakens and they discover that they are in a boat without oars, two meters from the edge of Niagara Falls.

At that moment, they shout: “Oh no!” But it’s too late -and falling. Sometimes the fall is emotional, while other times is physical or financial. Maybe you could avoid any challenges you are facing right now in your life if you had taken better decisions when you were still in the calm area of the river.

References:

  1. enallaktikidrasi.com
  2. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!, Tony Robbins

Are you looking for a new job and are you stressed? Mindfulness meditation will help you feel better during your job hunting.

Job searching can be a stressful business, especially if right now you are completely out of a job. The more resumes you submit and the more interviews you go to before finding something you like, the more you will consume yourself with uncertainties. Questions like “how do I pay my rent next week” or “will I afford gas to get to work when I finally get a new job” should be asked, but don’t let them overwhelm and stress you out.

Don’t Think You Are Invincible

During their teen years, everyone probably thinks they are invincible. Driving too fast, sleeping too little and irregularly, drinking too much, are done often, with little regard for the body or the mind. This changes once people get to their mid-20’s, early 30’s, and start doing more adult stuff, like working long hours, worrying about family, or staying awake at night because of insecure jobs and the need to look for new ones.

Unfortunately, this whole “adult stuff” business can be just as dangerous as driving too fast. You accumulate stress each time you overwork yourself and each time you worry about someone, failing to let your body recuperate from all that stress by depriving it of sleep. The fact of the matter is, everyone still acts as though they are invincible. But people burn out too.

Stress is responsible for 75 to 90 percent of all doctor’s office visits. Long-term, it contributes to heart diseases, diabetes, weight imbalances and autoimmune diseases. But you will feel the effect much sooner, or are already feeling them. Those mild migraines throughout the day and the fact that you feel queasy when trying to eat something could just as well be caused by stress.

Mindfully Relieve Stress

Mindfulness is the latest eastern practice to be widely adopted across the western cultures. Classes are being offered all over the place, promising mental wellbeing, and pupils are being thought to use this technique to better focus on their studies. It should also help with calming your mind during a new job hunting.

It became popular when University of Massachusetts professor Jon Kabat-Zinn adapted eastern meditation methods into a stress reduction program for the chronically ill. He claims this technique doesn’t only help people manage stress, it transforms the way stress is dealt with. Gelong Thubten, a Tibetan Buddhist, who teaches monthly classes at Google’s headquarters, says the technique works differently than most: “You’re going for a deeper approach,” he says, “because you look at how to get the mind to let go of stressful thinking.”

In a 2011 study,  done by the University of Washington on HR staff, it was found that people who had done an 8-week mindfulness meditation course were less likely to switch between tasks and showed an improved memory. Thubten says this technique brings “a greater sense of focus, non-distraction and concentration,”  which is most useful when you need to be at your best for an interview.

Mindfulness meditation is not complicated at all. All you need is a quiet spot (at first) and a word. This word will be your mantra, and can be anything from an “mmm” sound to something of significance to you. Then breathe regularly and repeat this word, letting your thoughts come and go as they please. Don’t focus on any of them. Your focus is your mantra.

Don’t ignore your thoughts completely, though. Notice their flow and how one thought gets you to the next, but don’t start daydreaming and remain anchored in the present. Notice other physical reactions as well, and become more acquainted with your body. Do this while sitting, not lied back, with your open palms resting on your thighs, facing upwards.

The Foundation of Meditation

This technique is based on two important human traits, compassion and empathy, and focuses on developing a more positive attitude towards others. “If you can engage in meditation practice and learn how to develop a more positive attitude towards others, it has amazing benefits,” explains Thubten.

You may think being compassionate and empathic can be counterproductive when you search for a new job, as you need your competitive edge to stay ahead of other candidates. But this technique has the end goal of improving your understanding of others, which will give you the edge you need and show the interviewer you are a positive person, focused on building and growing, not consuming and taking advantage.

The key point here and the person you should focus your compassion and try to understand better is yourself. “In the western world people are so self-judgmental, so hard on themselves and meditation is an amazing tool for developing self-acceptance, a sense of peace within,” says Thubten. Being at peace with yourself will show during an interview, by making you seem more confident.

Watch: Inner Peace and Harmony

How Long Should You Meditate

Don’t imagine you will lose hours each day standing still on a mat in the lotus position. Sure, there are meditation techniques that can require long periods of time to get working, but not this one. 15 to 20 minutes each day will be enough for you to feel the benefits. Done immediately after you wake up, this technique will get you ready for the day ahead. Before going to sleep, it will help with clearing your mind and allowing you to have a good night’s sleep.

Mindfulness meditation will show it’s true potential when you become able to enter the calming state it brings anywhere and at any time. You can use it when at work, during a break, or in public transports, on your way there. You will see its benefits in your new job application effort when you manage to enter a meditative state just before an interview and you enter the meeting room calm and ready for anything that gets thrown at you.

This meditation technique has become extremely popular in the last few years and you will be able to find a lot of other articles explaining it in detail, so be sure to check them out. Classes should be available mostly anywhere, though be careful to find an experienced, reputed instructor. If you feel you need more help, you should even be able to find some mobile apps to help you out.

Mindfulness meditation has been proven to help with concentration and memory and has the ability to ease anxiety. The most important aspect, according to Gelong Thubten, is the fact that you become a nicer person. “If you are kinder to people, you get along with them better,”  he says. “And you do well in the world when you get along with people. They reward you and your career will go well.” Makes sense.

What do you think about doing meditation to release your new job-hunting stress? Let us know in the comments below!

About the author

Amanda Wilks is a Boston University graduate and a Contributing Editor at Job Application Center. She has a great interest in everything related to job-seeking, career-building, and entrepreneurship and loves helping people reach their true potential.