Have you ever thought that your subconscious is trying to tell you something?

We’re all fighting uphill battles everyday, which is one thing we definitely share with each other. Our problems may be different, but we’re all basically going through the same motions, so to speak. What’s worse, however, is the self-sabotaging that we do to ourselves.

Instead of giving ourselves the breaks we need, we attack ourselves. We screw with ourselves and punish ourselves. Throughout all of this self-wreckage, our subconscious mind is trying to level with us. It’s trying to help us understand the importance of valuing ourselves.

So keep reading to find out what your subconscious mind wants you to know, based on the way you keep self-sabotaging yourself.

Worst enemy

Sometimes, we’re our own worst enemy. Instead of having people on the outside trying to sabotage us, we do it ourselves. Thanks to Thought Catalog, there is now a comprehensive way to best address this issue, looking through our subconscious minds to discover its best recommendations with helping ourselves out.

The negative return

It’s safe to say that quite a few of us have been in crappy relationships. What’s also true is that plenty of us have a tendency to return to people after breaking up who we know aren’t good for us. We remember the good times, but never the bad times, and as a result, we end up suffering.

The answer

Your subconscious mind wants you to realize that this is not a good move for you. If you enjoy being with someone who hurts you, then maybe this is rooted in something much more serious. Maybe you feel like you need to punish yourself with these people, even though you never actually did anything wrong.

The committing type

When we embark on relationships, it’s important that we find people are eager to commit, or at least willing to commit. However, if you keep finding yourself being attracted to people are unable or unwilling to commit, then you may want to ask yourself why you’re doing this to yourself.

Broken people

You tend to bring people into your life who are too broken to truly commit, and you do this because you think you are broken as well. The truth is, your subconscious wants you to know that this isn’t the case. You’re not too broken. You may be intimidated or afraid, but you’re not too broken.


There’s nothing abnormal about feeling unhappy. It happens to the best of us, and even though it hurts, it’s OK. However, if you keep insisting that you’re unhappy, even though nothing is wrong, then there are underlying issues that you need to confront, and your subconscious mind is here to help.

From within

The biggest problem here is that you’re likely hoping that an outside source will play some role and help you out. You’re expecting change to come to you, when in reality, it doesn’t work like that. You need to take an active role in bettering yourself, and realizing that you have the ability to change your own mind and sense of purpose.


The last thing you want to do is push people away in your life, especially when they’re positive elements in your life. If you realize that this is something you do, then it’s obvious that you’re sabotaging yourself. You need to listen to your subconscious and do what’s really going to benefit you.


You want love and connections, but you’re so afraid of the concept of loss, that you don’t even bother accepting positive connections in your life. You feel safer pushing people away, but this is such an unhealthy way to live. You will run into issues where you lose people, but it won’t be everyone. Not everyone will leave you.

Strange assumptions

It’s like swallowing a poisonous capsule when you convince yourself of something that isn’t even true. We do this to ourselves all the time, and we end up making situations so much more worse than they need to be. You think something, assume it’s true and then never accept that the truth is actually buried away elsewhere.


You have too much doubt in people. You’re afraid that people are out to get you, and you figure that you must be the only one with the right answers. As a result, you end up stressing yourself out over nothing. You put sink yourself into a pit of despair, even though the pit is completely unnecessary and only there because you put it there.

Crappy eating habits

We all know that bad food is bad for us, and we know exactly what those bad foods are… no matter how much we may try to convince ourselves otherwise. If you don’t want to eat poorly, but you’re doing it anyway, then there’s an underlying problem that your subconscious really wants you to recognize.

Stress eating

Honestly, you may just be incredibly stressed and overworked. People say that they turn to comfort foods when they’re stressed or depressed, and that’s because comfort foods are real. You may just need to give yourself a break every now and then.

Moving forward

If you want to move forward in life, you’ve got to put in the appropriate work. However, if you refuse to do that, then you’re only hurting yourself. You’re denying yourself opportunities that could move you forward, into a more comfortable area in life. Not doing these things will only make you feel stuck and incapable.

What we want

If this is something you can relate to, then it’s most likely happening because you’re on a path that you’re not entirely confident with. Maybe you don’t want what you think you want. Maybe you need to do some more digging. Maybe you need to find your true love.

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There are some basic things that can reveal your personality.

From the moment you meet someone for the first time, you want to evaluate directly who they are and what they represent.

This is precisely why you are might looking for specific features such as honesty, courtesy, intelligence.

By paying attention to these things, you can also conclude if what you want to pursue is a closer relationship with this person or not.

Such conclusions can prove to be particularly beneficial in big decisions, such as when it comes to creating a romantic relationship, hiring someone or accepting a job.

Based on these things, people judge personality and identify who you are or who you may not be.

1. Your handwriting

The way one writes and the size of his handwriting can tell reveal certain things about him. According to the survey conducted by the National Pen Company, it is revealed that people with small handwriting tend to be shy, crafty and scholarly while people who are more extrovert try to attract attention with a larger handwriting.

Those who take things seriously put more pressure on the pen when they write, while light-handed writers are usually more sympathetic and sensitive.

2. The colors you wear

According to an article from Psychology Today, the colors you wear most often can say a lot about your personality. People who often choose dark colors are sensitive, artistic and attentive to details, while those who love the red live life to the fullest and are more dynamic.

People who love green are loyal and affectionate, while those who love white are organizational and sensible. Finally, those who have blue as their favorite color are stable, sensitive and considerate of others.

3. Biting your nails

Specific repetitive body behaviors can also reveal your personality. Your body’s reaction to specific situations, whether it’s pulling your hair, biting your nails, or stinging your skin may signal impatience, indignation, boredom, and dissatisfaction.

Take, for example, nail-biting. According to a study, those who bite their nails tend to be perfectionists, as well as strong personalities and often nervous.

4. Your shoes

According to psychologists, you can judge a person simply by looking at his shoes. According to Kansas University researcher Omri Gillath, simply by looking at the cost, style, color, and condition of the shoe, it is possible to guess about 90% of the owner’s personality, as well as his income, his political beliefs, his gender, and even his age.

5. Your eyes

The eyes are the mirror of the soul. Your eyes tell a lot about you, about what you think and feel and whether you are dishonest or loyal. According to surveys, people with blue eyes are less aggressive and more likely to become alcoholics than people with darker eyes.

Another way the eyes betray is the lack of stability in sight, which reveals a lack of self-control and a weak will.

6. Your consistency

How early or late you appear in an appointment could create a positive or negative impression about your personality. Delaying an important appointment creates a negative impression of who you are while being on your appointment sooner means that you respect the time of other people, you are more mentally organized and you have strong internal motives.

7. Your handshake

It has been discovered that people with strong handshakes exude confidence and reflect a strong and powerful character. Such people are more likely to be extrovert, expressive in their feelings, and less likely to be self-restrained.

People with weak handshakes, on the other hand, have a lack of self-confidence and often tend to choose the easy way out from a problem. The handshake alone could highlight the difference between the one who is distant from the one who is frankly friendly.


How can we reprogram the subconscious mind? A Hindu Priest shares some great insights.

The subconscious mind is akin to that unseen portion of an iceberg which remains underwater. Some believe that up to 95% of our mental activity takes place in the subconscious, just below our conscious awareness. This ‘underwater’ portion of the mind is never inactive, though, as it continues to collect and process information even when we are asleep.

According to the Freudian model of the unconscious, the contents of the subregions of the mind are the primary guiding influence on a person’s behavior, habits and urges. And in his study of the psyche, revered psychoanalyst Carl Jung relates the importance of paying attention to what is going on in the lower parts of the mind, saying, “until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

Freudian model of the subconscious mind

While this model may be debatable to some scientists, sages and those devoted to personal development have long known that these regions of the mind are programmable with conscious intention, a process which can be achieved with affirmation and mantra.

As a spiritual tool, monks of the eastern traditions have been using mantras since time immemorial, most recognizably along with prayer beads. The value of this type of meditation is well-understood by practitioners, although, difficult to quantify. It offers a simple but powerful means of creating the emergence of desired positive outcomes in personality, habits, beliefs and emotions.

“Mantra is really just a specialized grouping of sounds and vibrations which positively affect the mental and physiological planes. The effects of sound on the brain have been demonstrated in Electro Encephala Graph (EEG) charts as well as by documented physical changes (skin temperature, heart rate, respiratory rate among them). While we may consciously want to remove certain thought patterns, they can be difficult to dislodge because they are formed at subconscious levels. This is where mantra can be very effective.” ~Christina Sarich

Speaking on how this process works, Hindu priest and international speaker Dandapāni explains how mantras are similar to affirmations in how they work to reprogram the subconscious mind. In an interview with Brian Rose of London Real, Dandapāni answers the question of why the simple concentrated repetition of sound can so powerfully brings about positive changes in personal behavior.

“You can say they are prayer beads, but they’re actually more like affirmation or mantra beads. So, we use these to actually program our subconscious. So as we chant on each bead, we chant an affirmation. I am happy, or I’m confident. And we repeat the same chant over and over again, and there are 108 beads… one chant over and over again.”

There is more to it than just saying a phrase 108 times, however, and as he explains, three ingredients are necessary: “Concise choice of positive words, clear visualization, and a corresponding feeling.”

The process of visualization is extremely important in clarifying for the mind the precise object in focus. If you were to chant, ‘I love apples,’ the brain would become confused by the word apple, however, unless a very clear picture of the apple is presented along with the mantra.

Regarding a corresponding feeling, he explains how feeling is emotion and emotion is energy, quoting the late Nikola Tesla.

“He [Tesla] had this beautiful saying which kind of encapsulates Hindu philosophy really well. He said that, ‘to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.’ Everything is made up of energy that’s vibrating at its own frequency. What we believe is that if your subconscious is filled with patterns that are vibrating at a certain frequency… and if you can go into your subconscious and create a pattern, infuse it with energy that’s vibrating at a certain frequency, you can attract things of a similar nature to it.”

The combined effect of intentionally applying sound, visualization and emotion to create positive change can override the contents of the subconscious mind. He elaborates further in the video below:


Original source: Waking Times

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We all know that life sometimes can become unbearable. We may feel that everything is falling apart around us.

Work, money, family, friends… all these things can contribute to the stress of life. When you feel that your whole world is falling apart, you have to learn how to stop and evaluate the situation.

It’s not easy, but it’s possible if you do the right things.

Take time to pray

Or, if it is not something you apply, you can spend some time in your day to focus on your positive energy. You will be surprised how much calmer and concentrated you feel by forcing yourself to devote a minute to focus on all the positive energy around you and within you.

Worry less

Worrying creates anxiety and makes it hard to do what you need to do. Try to focus on the steps needed to be taken to fix any problem or challenge that has arisen. If you have lost your job, worrying about how to pay your bills will not make more money to your bank account.

Instead of worrying, make a plan on how to go ahead. Put all your energy and do not let yourself sink into negativity.

Pain is temporary

No matter what you are going through right now, be it money problems, family problems or emotional collapse, remember that the pain you feel is temporary. Remember that you have not always felt that way, and you will be able to handle it more easily, instead of letting it crush you.

The problems of others are not your responsibility

When you feel that your own life is burdened with a lot of issues, remember that you shouldn’t take the burden of other people’s problems. Being open and available to help others when they need is definitely a good thing. However, you have to make sure that you set limits and you do not allow other people’s problems to become your responsibility, especially when you have serious problems yourself.

Move forward

When you feel your life is falling apart, the only possible direction is to move forward. Even when it seems impossible for you, you have to remember that you can rise again and continue trying for the best. A failure on the road doesn’t mean that all your plans should be derailed. Life can be tough but you are stronger than the challenges it brings.


Sometimes, it’s OK to cry when you need it. When things go wrong or when sadness becomes overwhelming, it is natural to want to cry. To give in to your feelings does not make you weak. Often, you will find that once you let yourself let go and cry, it clears your mind and you are able to take the next logical step forward on your journey.

Look for the positive in every situation

When life is falling apart around you, it can be hard to keep seeing the positive side of a situation. Try to see the sun behind the clouds.

If you have a bad break up, try to see it as a new opportunity to find the right partner. If you lose your job, see it as a chance to re-start your life with a career you really love.

Do not let yourself sink into pessimism. A positive view can completely transform your life.

Feel gratitude

When things are falling apart, it can be hard to see what things in your life do not go wrong. Take a moment to think about the things in your life that are stable, and all that you are grateful for.

Your ability to think positively will help you see your problems from a different perspective. If you lost your job, be grateful for the people who support you. If you have family difficulties, take the time to appreciate your partner.

Everyone has problems

Sometimes, it’s relieving to know that you are not the only one facing challenges. Remind yourself that there are people who have gone through the same or worst storms than you, giving you the boost you need to move forward.

H/T: Flow Magazine

Happiness is not a goal, it’s a state of being.

People forget that although they feel joy when they achieve their goals, daily happiness is what they truly want.

Fulfillment of dreams gives joy but does not replace pain permanently. What we have to do is to stop some small negative habits that bring us down and deprive our everyday joy.

Here are ten simple steps:

1. Stop being jealous

Some think that comparing themselves to others works. It could if the purpose was competition, inspiration or the creation of goals. It becomes detrimental when the achievements of others lead to frustrating feelings. Stop and you will have more time to focus on what you can achieve than what others do.

2. Don’t be afraid of change

Often, even if the current situation is bad, many people refuse to move. They know that they are not well where they are, but they are afraid of the new even more. If you expel this fear, new worlds will emerge in front of you to discover. The ability to adapt to change and dealing with it face to face is the most exciting feeling one can experience.

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3. Moderate control

Although many want to fully control their lives (and probably the lives of others), they can not control everything. Even if you try hard, not everything happens as you would want. Once people realize that certain things and situations are beyond their control, they become more receptive to what life brings.

4. Stop working overtime

Professional advancement leads many people to overtime. It is important to fulfill your dreams, but you need a balance to be happy. Achieving goals that are worthwhile are legitimate, however, dedicating time to other important elements of life (family, friends, hobbies) is even more important.

5. Stop blaming others

Sometimes things go wrong. Whether it is work or other areas, people feel the need to blame someone else. It is like a defensive mechanism: we do not want to feel responsible for anything bad comes up. If we stop it, we will focus on finding solutions to get out of the difficult situations.

6. Stop whining

People who constantly complain not only destroy their own happiness but also other’s. What you can definitely control is your reaction to inconvenient situations. The best thing to do is to stop grumble and start seeing the problems with a new perspective.

7. You don’t need to always be right

No one has the gift to know everything. So why do some people insist that they are always right? Even if it were, would it be worth disagreeing about this belief? Sometimes, you have to put your interpersonal relationships above, from being (and proving) right.

8. Exceed limits

Many believe not only that they simply can’t fulfill their dreams, but not even reach them. The feeling of impotence, the belief that your abilities are limited, is one of the biggest obstacles to happiness. If people overcome this feeling, they will have inexhaustible opportunities.

Watch: Remove Subconscious Blockages

9. Remove bad influences

People are easily affected by the people around them. We are social beings and adopt habits and values ​​of what surrounds us. Bad friendships that make us “less” than what we are capable of, prevent us from the happiness we deserve. We must be surrounded by people who inspire us and lead us to live life to the fullest.

10. Forget about the past

The past is full of experiences, good and bad. These experiences define us. The past should not be a record of incidents that people regret, but a source of wisdom that makes us better, in order to have the happy life we ​​deserve.


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