Affirmations can be tricky, tricky things.

Affirmations are positive statements designed to focus our attention on having the things we want in life. Many students of the Law of Attraction use affirmations regularly to align with their goals and desires.

A well-constructed affirmation can tap you into the knowledge that all is well, and that you are capable of great things. A well-constructed affirmation can help you attract more and more of the good things you are hoping to manifest with the law of attraction.

A not-so-well-constructed affirmation can leave you feeling bored and uninspired, or even worse, irritated, sad or angry! A not-so-well-constructed affirmation will actually push away the things you want.

Therefore, it’s really important to construct your affirmations with care!

What makes a good affirmation?

There are a number of characteristics of a good affirmation. However, in my opinion, the most important characteristic of a good affirmation is that it feels true. Consider the following:

You are a young woman who just got dumped and who has a bad relationship with your family. You are feeling alone and uncared for. You want to attract in new relationships that make you feel connected and loved, so you decide to practice some affirmations.

You find a few affirmations, and decide to use this one daily: “I am loved.”

Do you imagine reciting the affirmation “I am loved,” over and over is going to feel particularly true to you in this situation?

Probably not. In fact, saying “I am loved” to yourself over and over again when you are clearly NOT feeling very loved is only going to amplify the feelings of being unloved, not loved.

Whenever we feel we don’t have something we want, telling ourselves we have it is a surefire way to establish greater feelings of insecurity.

When we assert something we don’t believe we have, it makes us feel like we are lying to ourselves. It’s not a good feeling. It’s like telling a sad person to smile and be positive when he or she is sobbing uncontrollably. It just doesn’t work, and it only makes the sad person feel worse.

Telling yourself you have something you don’t really believe you have is the wrong way to use affirmations. An affirmation must feel true in order to amplify positive feelings of belief.

If your affirmations don’t feel true, modify them.

So, what do you do? If you want to attract love, are you simply supposed to avoid all kinds of affirmations about love?

No! You can still use affirmations about love, just modify them to make them feel true!

Below are four affirmation modifiers you can use to make your affirmations ring true on a more consistent basis. Consider adding modifiers to adjust your affirmations and make them more effective.

1. “I’m looking forward to…”

When there’s something you want that you don’t have yet, one thing you can affirm is your excitement to get what you want.

Adding the modifier “I’m looking forward to…” to the beginning of your affirmation allows you to focus on what you want in a positive way. It enables you to practice the feeling of positive anticipation, which feels good.

The truth is, you are looking forward to this thing you want. For this reason, this affirmation should always ring true.

For example: “I am wealthy and successful” might not feel too true when you’re living paycheck to paycheck. Instead, change this affirmation to “I’m looking forward to wealth and success.”

2. “It feels really good when I…”

Sometimes, there are things we want again that we’ve had before. In times like this, this modifier is especially useful.

This affirmation modifier allows you to remember (and therefore practice) the feeling of having something you had before in the past.

Practicing the feeling of what you had is a great way to get into better alignment with the desire to have it again. This type of modifier asserts that you’ve done it before and it allows you to feel good about something you’ve accomplished in the past.

For example: “I attract positive people and circumstances” might not feel too true when you’re having a bad day and find yourself surrounded by negativity. In a situation like this, change this affirmation to “It feels really good when I attract positive people and circumstances.”

3. “I am often/frequently…”

Similar to the previous modifier, this affirmation modification asserts that you’ve done it before. This is another great modifier to use when there’s something you’ve had before that you want to experience again.

For example: “I am appreciated” might not feel to true when you’re feeling criticized or overlooked. Instead, try “I am often/frequently appreciated.”

4. “…in many ways.”

This is a great modifier to enhance something you already have some of, but you want more of.

The nice thing about this modifier is that amplifies the knowledge of all of the many ways you already have exactly what you’re asking for. This modifier encourages you to think about and dwell on the many reasons why you are already successful at getting what you want.

For example: “I am prosperous” might feel somewhat true to you because you have a home, a car and some money in the bank. To feel especially true, and to amplify the feeling of prosperity, add the modifier by saying “I am prosperous in many ways.”

Try them out!

I hope you find good use for these affirmation modifications. Use these four modifiers liberally, and play around with them to see which ones work well for the desires you are hoping to attract!

Remember, an effective affirmation makes you feel good because it’s a positive statement that feels very honest and true. Modifiers like these can help you amplify the authenticity of your affirmations.

Do you have any other affirmation modifications you use? Feel free to comment below and share them with me!

XO, Andrea

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About the author
Andrea Schulman is a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of Raise Your Vibration Today, which provides free and easy Law of Attraction techniques. She is also available for group educational seminars and webinars.

Words hold powerful vibrations. Thoughts hold even more powerful vibrations. This is why positive mantras or affirmations can be extremely healing and beneficial.

We all tend to go through rough patches in life, but regardless of what is going on in our physical environment, mantras can help us attune our internal environment to a higher, more positive frequency.

Even though you may not fully feel or believe your mantra to begin with, the more you say it and the more you allow it into your life, the greater chance it will have to heal you.

During my readings and coaching sessions I always tell people to ‘fake it until they make it’.

Sometimes we can be so low and down that we don’t even have the energy to utter the mantra- “I love myself”. However, gradually with time, the more you keep saying it, the more its effects will begin to take hold and shape your life.

Depending on how deep the wounds go, Mantras may have to be repeated up to 100 times before you can notice the healing taking place. But don’t let this scare you away. Mantras are really one of the easiest tools of healing as they require very little effort.

They can be repeated softly in your mind, or recited out loud. Mantras can also be written daily or placed on a wall poster in a space that you can read it often.

Studies have shown that believing is 90% of the healing journey, so even if you don’t believe at first, your persistence will pay off.

Here are 11 healing mantras that you can use:

1.) Today I let go of all that does not serve me and choose to heal my heart, mind, body and soul with self-love, compassion and kindness.

Good for dealing with resentments, anger, frustration and guilt. Use when you have been too harsh on yourself or caught up in old emotions, worries and the past.

2.) I am eternally loved by this Universe and everything is working in my favor.

Good for promoting self-love, mending a broken heart, restoring faith and when things are not going as expected.

3.) I feel abundance all around me and within me. I am a powerful co-creator of this Universe and I trust that all my needs will always be met.

Good for attracting money or other fortunate situations and when you are feeling insecure and disassociated from the Universe.

Watch: Develop a Wealthy Mindset

4.) I am strong, I am grounded and I am rooted in my being. I am connected to this Universe and to my body and I send it rays of healing white light.

Good for physical ailments or illness and for reconnecting with your physical body after a night out drinking or after eating poor food.

5.) I am aligned with my highest truth and communicate all my needs, wants and desires with love, understanding and compassion.

Good for negotiations or when you need to stand up for yourself or tell someone how you really feel.

6.) I open to the fullness of my power and know that I am perfectly enough exactly as I am.

Good for establishing self-worth, boosting your confidence and finding your strength.

7.) I have a crystal clear vision on where I want to go and I know I am walking the path of my higher purpose.

Good for finding your purpose, regaining confidence on your soul journey and finding clarity.

8.) I connect with the Divine Source and ask for guidance through the sacred transformations in my life.

Good for spiritual awakenings, reconnecting with the soul, tapping into the higher source or power and when dealing with transformative periods on the spiritual level.

9.) I am grateful for this day, I am grateful for my body, I am grateful for my mind, I am grateful for my soul. Everyday I notice and feel gratitude for the abundance around me.

Good for restoring faith and hope, attracting abundance and aligning with the energy of the Universe. Also good to use to promote joy and happiness.

10.) I am strong, soft and graceful. No matter what events have come my way, I have the strength, the compassion and the tools to overcome them with ease.

Good for when life throws you difficult challenges, helpful in restoring inner power, confidence and joy.

11.) I love myself. I honor myself. I respect my boundaries and I trust myself. I know I am my best friend and biggest ally. I can do anything.

Good for overall healing, self-love, building confidence and finding strength and compassion through times of adversity.

Feel free to make your own mantras too! Just keep all the words positive in order to attract a high vibration frequency.

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Affirmations are positive declarations and self-scripts meant to mold the subconscious into a more positive form.

Lately, this new-age practice is being hailed by practitioners and their patients as a potentially revolutionary practice.

These individuals state that positive affirmations have the capability to heal the hurt done by negative talk that takes place both from within our own minds and from the mouths of others.

What about affirmations to help treat the two most common mental illnesses in the world – anxiety and depression?

Can the causes or symptoms of anxiety and depression be reduced, or even healed, through positive affirmations?

Promising Research on Affirmations

In a 2010 study done at Arizona State University, three expert ‘populations’ were studied: popular self-help literature, respected psychologists and psychotherapists, and individuals who were experiencing anxiety and/or depression.

In the research that was conducted it was determined that, at the very least, affirmations can be useful as a supplemental form of treatment for many depressed and/or anxious patients. For some patients, affirmations proved to be the most influential part of their recovery process.

Within the study, 17 therapists on a scale of 1-7, rated seven different affirmations on how effective they were in the treatment of those struggling with an anxiety disorder and/or clinical depression. The same affirmations were used for both disorders, as they often complement each other.

Interestingly, the three highest-rated affirmations were for anxiety. The top three affirmations had average scores of 5.43, 5.37, and 5.03, respectively. The top three affirmations for depression had scores of 4.83, 4.58, and 4.58.

Nearly all of the participants (including the therapists) agreed that affirmations can be a helpful practice when recovering from anxiety and depression! Individuality and the patients’ preferred method of treatment is thought to be the most important element in determining how effective a method of treatment is.

In other words, the willingness and belief of the individual to embrace positive affirmations increases the likelihood that these affirmations will make a positive impact!

The authors conclude with restating that treatments for anxiety and depression are highly individualized and customizable, and must be constructed as such. In the construction of an individualized treatment plan, all therapists and the authors of the study agree that affirmations should be deliberated – as they have been embraced by therapists and patients alike.

11 Powerful Affirmations to Help Treat Depression and Anxiety

If you are new to affirmations, you’ll find our “How to Practice Affirmations” guide below very helpful.  Repeat these positive affirmations, begin to believe them and you’ll see results!

1. I love myself unconditionally.

 2. I am STRONG!

3. I allow only healthy and loving relationships into my life.

4. Life wants the best for me. I am OK with where I am right now.

5. I am connected and comfortable in all environments, with all people.

6. I find and enjoy the simple pleasures life is offering right now.

7. How I feel matters, therefore I concentrate on aspects of life that make me feel good!

8. My challenges bring me better opportunities.

9. My mood creates a physiological response in my body. I am peaceful and positive!

10. I am in control of my thoughts and my life.

11. I love myself and who I am.

How to Practice Your Affirmations

First, it’s important to understand that effectiveness of affirmations depends on your commitment and dedication to practicing consistently. The belief of the affirmation will get easier over time. If you talk every day, then you are already practicing affirmations.

Every word you speak is an affirmation.  It’s just that sometimes our affirmations to ourselves, about others, or our situation is not positive. Affirmations help us to consciously flip the switch and begin speaking in the direction that we actually want to travel.

You will want to make affirmations a daily routine (or at least a few times a week) in order to achieve the maximum benefits and help relieve your anxiety/depression faster. Be gentle with yourself though and do them as often as you can. Like anything, it seems harder in the beginning and then gets easier and easier until it’s like second nature.

Here are some helpful steps in getting you started on the path to positive affirmations:

  1. Contemplate your positive qualities. As human beings, we more often think about what we’d rather change about ourselves than what we love. We are all unique creatures, given gifts that no one else in the world has! Write down the things that you know are special about you, and write them in the first person (“I am…”)
  1. Consider the negative scripts that you wish to replace with positive ones. What goes through your head when you’re down? Do you have negative perceptions about your looks, intelligence, accomplishments or abilities? Time to replace that negative chatter with those positive qualities you listed in step one!
  1. Consider what positive goals you want to accomplish. There are specific goals that you want to achieve, right? As you continue to feel better about yourself, you’ll be more and more motivated to work towards these. Write them down.
  1. Order your list of goals and scripts. You may find that your list of scripts and goals have grown rather large. That’s great! You will want to work on a few of these at a time. Choose what is the most urgent and work on these first. When you see measurable improvement in an area, move down the list!
  1. Re-write and re-read your affirmations and goals daily. Make a habit of writing your goals and scripts daily – to the point where they’re the last thing you think of when you fall asleep and the first thing when you wake up.
  1. Combine your positive qualities (step 1) with your goals (step 3). What positive qualities did you affirm in step one that can help you achieve the goals that you’ve set? If you resolve to lose weight and have great focus, then you can combine these two to give yourself some momentum. Choose two or three affirmations to support your goals.
  1. Meditate on your affirmations. Get in a meditative state, whatever is most comfortable for you, close your eyes, and think about your affirmations. Feel the emotions that arise as you repeat the words and think about the future.
  1. Remind yourself of your affirmations. Write down your affirmations on notecards, a whiteboard, scrap paper, or Post-Its and place them around your home, work, and car; wherever you will see them. Each time you see the affirmation, think about what it means to you.

Keep at it!
Practice makes perfect. As you continue with your affirmations and begin to see real evidence of your making small changes, feel gratitude and keep going. You will begin to see bigger and bigger changes in your mood, feelings about yourself and others, and your life.

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Age-old practices backed by modern science.

No matter the tradition, as skeptical Americans, we require empirical evidence before we embrace any philosophy.

When science catches up with the physiology behind the experienced effects of any medicine, there is reason to drop pre-conceived ideas and consider.

Such is the Case with Meditation

Practiced for millennia in other cultures, only those with direct experience can tell you what it does for them–“yoga pants” have become a fashion fad but it’s no joke or passing fancy. They may not understand why (or care), they only know it works for them.

Hundreds of studies have been performed on the physiologic effects of deep relaxation, most showing significant positive results and none with side effects. If only our pharmaceuticals could say the same thing.

The brain changes with regular meditation. Mind-body therapies (e.g., meditation and yoga) reduce markers of inflammation and promote virus-inhibiting immune response in the body. These practices reduce symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome, fibermyalgia, and chronic fatigue syndrome.They are proven to reduce the effects of stress, depression, insomnia, and neurological disorders.

Practice Mindfulness

“Mindfulness” is the term used for being present in the current moment, allowing thoughts to pass through your consciousness without dwelling on them or judging “good” or “bad”. It is the state of mind that allows to you release yourself of pressure and stress by clearing thoughts that plague your everyday routine. By becoming mindful, you allow yourself to feel without your brain getting in the way. It can be achieved through meditation, guided visualization, yoga, repetitive prayer and mantra.

Watch: Increase Your Conscious Awareness

Here are just some of the benefits of deep relaxation that put you in a state of mindfulness. They mean much more than just decreasing stress, although relaxation is the conduit through which all the other systems in the body react.

1. Anti-inflammatory

It is scientifically known that chronic inflammation in the body causes serious disease like cancer, arthritis, asthma, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, neurodegenerative disease, and psoriasis. Deep relaxation has been found to reduce stress-induced inflammation.

2. Calmness

In the practice of meditation, we do not dwell on thoughts but allow them to pass through our consciousness. When an upsetting thought pops in, rather than stopping and poring over it, we recognize it and allow it to flow out of the mind. This management of thought brings a general state of calmness and serenity.

3. Emotional Balance

Meditation transforms the level of consciousness, allowing us to let go of ego and any unpleasant emotion arising from its exercise. The result is balance and a greater ability to handle the emotions we feel, applying them in a more direct and appropriate way.

4. Increased Fertility

As anyone who has had trouble conceiving knows, stress is a factor in inhibiting the natural process of reproduction–in both women and men. Reduction of stress has been found to improve fertility for both sexes.

5. Increased Immunity

Daily progressive muscle relaxation reduces the risk of breast cancer recurrence, supporting the immune system to resist tumors and viruses, and results in less sickness, anxiety, and depression arising from chemotherapy.

6. Lowers Blood Pressure

Studies have shown that meditation reduces blood pressure and generally decreases the risk of cardiovascular disease by mediating the release of stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol. As one doctor put it:

When we were cavemen, that adrenaline helped us be ready if a tiger was going to attack. Today, all the tigers are in our heads.


7. Relieves Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)

Many people suffer from IBS and its causes are many. Apart from changes in diet and lifestyle, meditation relieves the severity and symptoms of IBS by reducing stress levels.

So how do you access deep relaxation and mindfulness?

All you need is a little time (2-30 minutes a day) and a quiet place, free from distraction. You may choose the method(s) that is most comfortable for you; there is no right or wrong.

Body Scan

Starting with your head and working down to your arms and feet, notice how you feel in your body. Taking in your head and neck, simply notice if you feel tense, relaxed, calm, or anxious. See how much you can spread any sensations of softness and relaxation to areas of your body that feel tense. Once your reach your feet, work back up your body.

Breath Focus

Sit comfortably. Tune into your breath, follow the sensation of inhaling from your nose to abdomen and out again. Let tension go with each exhalation. When you notice your mind wandering, return to your breath.

Guided Imagery

Imagine a wonderfully relaxing light or a soothing waterfall washing away tension from your body and mind. Make your image vivid, imagining texture, color, and any fragrance as the image washes over you.

Mantra Repetition

The relaxation response can be evoked by sitting quietly with eyes closed for 15 minutes twice a day, and mentally repeating a simple word or sound such as “om”.


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