And you thought vampires only exist in Twilight? You are gravely mistaken, my friend.

They exist in our society, as well. I’m not saying you should go to Transylvania looking for Count Dracula. I’m suggesting something far more real.

Real life vampires don’t walk in capes or drink human blood for dessert. They are hiding among the faces that you meet everyday, sucking out your life energy and leaving you with a numb feeling.

Our characters are defined by the kind of energy they foster. In the end, everything comes down to energy, and not in a strictly spiritual sense. Do you know someone who gets on people’s nerves and requires a lot of attention? Do you ever get tired or exhausted only by talking to someone? That’s more like a vampire, actually.

10 signs which can warn you about your energy going to the wrong places

1. Have you experienced being talked at rather than talked to? There are people who would consider you merely to be a vessel, a listener at whom they can throw their ideas and views. Don’t spend much time with them, or else they can drain every bit of your energy within a couple of hours.

2. Do you try to pretend to be someone just to fit in a crowd? They don’t give a damn about you and your sincerest efforts and will not fail to drain your energy. And you know what? You are better off alone.

3. If staying with them evokes in you a sense of guilt and they complain a lot about you being not the person they want.

4. Some people will try to manipulate you, use you and discard you when they’ve got what they wanted. Just don’t be a doormat, okay?

5. You are not really comfortable (let alone be pleased) with the sexual intimacy you have with this person. Sex feels like a chore, or worse, a favor, and there’s definitely something wrong in that.

6. You would be relieved to come out of this relationship, but you’re not able to. Energy vampires are really good at manipulating their victims to be stuck with them. This is the sad reality of many of the abusive relationships. If you’re in one, opt out ASAP.

7. You get tangled up in their everyday dramas whether you want to or not. This could put a huge pressure on your energy index.

Related: Control Dramas – Roles we Play Unconsciously

8. Narcissistic personalities depend heavily on other people’s energies in order to lead their own lives. They are (in)famous energy drainers – they abuse, belittle, confuse and turn your life into a living hell.

9. Keep yourself away from the cult of celebrities. Celebrities often look more charismatic than they are, and you’ll eventually end up spending your energy in return of… nothing.

10. Someone close to you saying things like they can’t live without you, they’d die if you go away and of course, the one that begins with ‘If you would’ve loved me, you’d do…’

Original source: Conscious Reminder

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As we progress through the process of ascension, several stages occur. Among them is a shake-up which inspires an initial awakening, then the full realization of truth, followed by the development of discernment to ascertain a correct course of action. We wouldn’t try to ride a bicycle before building one, nor would we attempt to sail an ocean without a boat. When things get challenging in life, we can check to see if we are practicing Wu Wei in order to refine our actions. This is the art of effortless action as described in Taoist teachings.

1. No Action Doesn’t Mean ‘Nothing’ Happens

The Tao does nothing and yet nothing is left undone.” – Lao Tzu

Wu Wei or 無為, translates from Chinese pinyin to mean “no-action” or “actionless action.” This is considered the ‘natural’ way to do things, as opposed to striving, opposing, and forcing, as well as lollygagging, or succumbing to complete inertia. When we are in alignment with the Source, or as Taoists call it, simply, the Tao, then we don’t have to ‘work’ at anything. This is not to be confused with doing nothing. The state of Wu Wei doesn’t give us an excuse to sit on the sidelines, observing life and critiquing others’ actions. Instead, it describes the inspired action of a person who is brimming with life energy, and that has dedicated their actions to a purpose which supports Oneness. This person does not waste energy, though, and moves only when the time is right, and then, with magnificent acumen, and seemingly magical support behind them.

The ancient ideograms and symbols used in the Chinese language and culture offer the most simplistic way to describe Wu Wei. We can observe this is the simple Yin Yang symbol. One side is active, or masculine, representing the energy of extending oneself into the world, and the other side of the symbol is passive, or more accurately, receiving, or feminine energy that causes an inward journey.

All Chinese medicine, martial, and internal arts from Tai Chi to acupuncture to meditation aim to help balance the masculine and feminine energies, the doing and ‘not-doing’ you might say, as a way to achieve Wu Wei.

2. The Cosmos is Not Working Against You

We aren’t sandwiched between heaven and earth, we ARE heaven and earth. To practice Wu Wei, we must first realize that we are connected to the Oneness of all things. Though we should have clear boundaries, like children given free rein to run and play within the confines of a beautiful park, we also should remain open to vulnerability and the lessons this may teach. Once we are open and protected we can begin to observe nature and embrace universal energy as it ebbs and flows. From there, we learn when to move with that energy – ebbing and flowing with our own actions in accordance with the Oneness of all things. An immense sense of freedom comes from knowing we don’t have to fight against the Cosmos, and understanding that it is never working against us – only we can choose to work against it’s flow.

3. Physical Action Isn’t the Only Action

Another principle of Wu Wei involves quieting the ever-busy mind. Even if we aren’t ‘doing’ anything physically, often our minds are busier than ever. Wu wei means that we not only quiet the body and its actions, but that we aim to quiet the mind. Otherwise, we will have no idea if we are in Universal flow, or simply acting ‘busy’ out of the needs of the ‘ego,’ we so obsessively align ourselves with.

Even with our meditation practice, we are encouraged not to ‘try too hard.’ Perhaps you’ve seen a mind game that has been installed at several museums around the U.S.. Two people sit across from one another, and attach headbands equipped with electrodes to themselves. Between the players are a group of balls that can only be moved with the brain’s waves, measured as electromagnetic currents through the headband. If a player maintains a state of relaxed calm, essentially a combination of alpha and theta waves produced by the brain when it’s relaxed, then a ball moves up a tube and is placed in a bin. The player with the most ‘balls,’ wins after a certain period of time commences. Those who try too hard, fail, as do those who don’t try hard enough. The combination of alpha and theta waves created by a Wu wei mind is what wins the game every time.

Lao Tzu advises that we must be quiet and watchful, learning to listen to both our own inner voices and to the voices of our environment in a non-interfering, receptive manner. This requires a calm, but astute mind.

4. Being at One with the Tao Means Accepting Change

A key principal in Taoism, and the practice of Wu Wei involves the realization that there is an unceasing flow of change in nature. This change is governed by laws which are unalterable, and rarely perceived except by the most consciously evolved individuals. Fighting these laws of change would be a sisyphean task. Would you try to to stop the changing of the season or the rise and fall of the sun to the horizon? Once you observe this flow of change in nature, you can apply principles of Wu wei to your own transformation. Since you are a part and parcel of nature, you will change accordingly. Why not move with that change instead of fight against it – perhaps you can even welcome change the next time it arrives at your doorstep.

5. True Wu Wei Involves Purposeless Wandering

Zhuangzi refers to a type of being in the world that many of us have never considered. He calls it flowing, or more poetically “purposeless wandering.” Most of our cultural values frown upon this type of being. If we have ‘no purpose’ we are often deemed pathological in the context of modern day living. Yet, it would be difficult to maintain that our current values have promoted harmony and balance, either environmentally or for each individual.

In Zhuangzi’s Basic Writings, he states, “ you can use the analogy of an artist or craftsman. The skilled woodcarver, the skilled swimmer… does not ponder or ratiocinate on the course of action he should take; his skill has become so much a part of him that he merely acts instinctively and spontaneously, without knowing why, and achieves success.” He further describes an enlightened person as being one who wanders through creation enjoying its delights without ever becoming attached to any one part of it.

This article was originally appeared at The Mind Unleashed.

About the author

Christina Sarich is a musician, yogi, humanitarian and freelance writer who channels many hours of studying Lao Tzu, Paramahansa Yogananda, Rob Brezny, Miles Davis, and Tom Robbins into interesting tidbits to help you Wake up Your Sleepy Little Head, and *See the Big Picture*. Her blog is Yoga for the New World . Her latest book is Pharma Sutra: Healing The Body And Mind Through The Art Of Yoga.

“Wei Wu Wei” means “action that is non-action”, namely effortless action.

At Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu explains that beings (or phenomena) that are in harmony with the Tao (the way, way of universal vital principle), they behave in a totally natural, non-directed manner.

The goal of spiritual practice for the human being is, according to Lao Tzu, the attainment of this pure and natural behavior pattern, like the planets revolve around the sun, or like a blossoming flower.

The planets revolve without control, power or effort, instead they move effortlessly and spontaneously.

Such an attitude allows the natural flow of life to unfold smoothly, without continuously want to control everything – and create the so-called resistance.

Below are some excerpts from the e-book “Tao Te Ching, The Way and the Power”, translated by James Legge:

Not to value and employ men of superior ability is the way to keep the people from rivalry among
themselves; not to prize articles which are difficult to procure is the way to keep them from becoming thieves;
not to show them what is likely to excite their desires is the way to keep their minds from disorder.

Heaven is long-enduring and earth continues long. The reason why heaven and earth are able to endure
and continue thus long is because they do not live of, or for, themselves. This is how they are able to continue
and endure.

Therefore the sage puts his own person last, and yet it is found in the foremost place; he treats his person as
if it were foreign to him, and yet that person is preserved. Is it not because he has no personal and private
ends, that therefore such ends are realised?

The highest excellence is like (that of) water. The excellence of water appears in its benefiting all things,
and in its occupying, without striving (to the contrary), the low place which all men dislike. Hence (its way) is
near to (that of) the Tao.
The excellence of a residence is in (the suitability of) the place; that of the mind is in abysmal stillness; that
of associations is in their being with the virtuous; that of government is in its securing good order; that of (the
conduct of) affairs is in its ability; and that of (the initiation of) any movement is in its timeliness.
And when (one with the highest excellence) does not wrangle (about his low position), no one finds fault
with him.

When the intelligent and animal souls are held together in one embrace, they can be kept from
separating. When one gives undivided attention to the (vital) breath, and brings it to the utmost degree of
pliancy, he can become as a (tender) babe. When he has cleansed away the most mysterious sights (of his
imagination), he can become without a flaw.
In loving the people and ruling the state, cannot he proceed without any (purpose of) action? In the opening
and shutting of his gates of heaven, cannot he do so as a female bird? While his intelligence reaches in every
direction, cannot he (appear to) be without knowledge?
(The Tao) produces (all things) and nourishes them; it produces them and does not claim them as its own; it
does all, and yet does not boast of it; it presides over all, and yet does not control them. This is what is called
‘The mysterious Quality’ (of the Tao).

The thirty spokes unite in the one nave; but it is on the empty space (for the axle), that the use of the wheel
depends. Clay is fashioned into vessels; but it is on their empty hollowness, that their use depends. The door
and windows are cut out (from the walls) to form an apartment; but it is on the empty space (within), that its
use depends. Therefore, what has a (positive) existence serves for profitable adaptation, and what has not that
for (actual) usefulness.

Favour and disgrace would seem equally to be feared; honour and great calamity, to be regarded as
personal conditions (of the same kind).
What is meant by speaking thus of favour and disgrace? Disgrace is being in a low position (after the
enjoyment of favour). The getting that (favour) leads to the apprehension (of losing it), and the losing it leads
to the fear of (still greater calamity):–this is what is meant by saying that favour and disgrace would seem
equally to be feared.


Who can (make) the muddy water (clear)? Let it be still, and it will gradually become clear. Who can
secure the condition of rest? Let movement go on, and the condition of rest will gradually arise.

They who preserve this method of the Tao do not wish to be full (of themselves). It is through their not
being full of themselves that they can afford to seem worn and not appear new and complete.

If we could renounce our sageness and discard our wisdom, it would be better for the people a
hundredfold. If we could renounce our benevolence and discard our righteousness, the people would again
become filial and kindly. If we could renounce our artful contrivances and discard our (scheming for) gain,
there would be no thieves nor robbers.

When we renounce learning we have no troubles.
The (ready) ‘yes,’ and (flattering) ‘yea;’–

Small is the difference they display.
But mark their issues, good and ill;–
What space the gulf between shall fill?
What all men fear is indeed to be feared; but how wide and without end is the range of questions (asking to be

The grandest forms of active force
From Tao come, their only source.
Who can of Tao the nature tell?
Our sight it flies, our touch as well.
Eluding sight, eluding touch,
The forms of things all in it crouch;
Eluding touch, eluding sight,
There are their semblances, all right.
Profound it is, dark and obscure;
Things’ essences all there endure.
Those essences the truth enfold
Of what, when seen, shall then be told.
Now it is so; ’twas so of old.
Its name–what passes not away;
So, in their beautiful array,
Things form and never know decay.

How know I that it is so with all the beauties of existing things? By this (nature of the Tao).

He who knows other men is discerning; he who knows himself is intelligent. He who overcomes others
is strong; he who overcomes himself is mighty. He who is satisfied with his lot is rich; he who goes on acting
with energy has a (firm) will.
He who does not fail in the requirements of his position, continues long; he who dies and yet does not
perish, has longevity.

Men come forth and live; they enter (again) and die.
Of every ten three are ministers of life (to themselves); and three are ministers of death.
There are also three in every ten whose aim is to live, but whose movements tend to the land (or place) of
death. And for what reason? Because of their excessive endeavours to perpetuate life.
But I have heard that he who is skilful in managing the life entrusted to him for a time travels on the land
without having to shun rhinoceros or tiger, and enters a host without having to avoid buff coat or sharp
weapon. The rhinoceros finds no place in him into which to thrust its horn, nor the tiger a place in which to fix
its claws, nor the weapon a place to admit its point. And for what reason? Because there is in him no place of

All things are produced by the Tao, and nourished by its outflowing operation. They receive their forms
according to the nature of each, and are completed according to the circumstances of their condition.
Therefore all things without exception honour the Tao, and exalt its outflowing operation.

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“Tao Te Ching, The Way and the Power”, translated by James Legge.



Everyone talks about connecting with their soul or their higher self, but what does this really feel like? How do you know when you are connecting with the true essence of You?

Discovering your soul is essentially discovering your true inner being and through this discovery, you are able to align with your purpose, your passions and what makes you feel whole.

Your soul is always there for you to connect with, you don’t need to reach a certain stage of enlightenment or spend hours practicing, your soul is always available to you as a tool of guidance and support.

Aligning with your soul can help you to live a more conscious, mindful life and can also help you to transcend the ego and tune in to your highest purpose.

“The Soul is the truth of who we are” – Marianne Williamson

Your soul is more powerful than you can comprehend- its smarter than a computer and more powerful than nuclear warfare. Your soul is endless, infinite and timeless and it’s waiting for you to say Hello.

3 Ways to Connect with Your Soul

1.) The Things You Love

Without putting too much thought into it, make a list of things that you love, such as: “family, lemon tarts, Sunday mornings, etc…” Keep going, writing as many things as you can- the more words the better. In fact, if you really want to dig deep aim to write 100 things, as at this point you will most likely be writing from the absolute depths of your soul.

All of the things written on this list, especially the first few words and the last few words, are ways in which your spirit is fed. These words are the way in which your soul feels alive and aligned. The more you give your soul the things it loves, the stronger it becomes and the more connected you will feel to it.

2.) Be in Nature

Spending time in nature and really being present to all the beauty around you can instantly connect you with the essence of who you are. Being in nature can also help you put your life into perspective and can quiet your mind, especially if you are stressed, worried or anxious.

While in nature, take a moment to observe you senses- what are you hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting and feeling? Once you have reflected on your five senses go deeper, what is sixth sense or higher self saying or feeling? What is being communicated to you on the deepest level of your soul?

3.) Soul Connection Meditation

Meditation is a fantastic way to connect with your soul. Here is a basic soul connection meditation:

  • Sit in a comfortable position with your eyes closed.
  • Bring your awareness to your body and the breath. Breathe in and out deeply from the belly 5-6 times.
  • Start to sense the space and stillness surrounding your body. Don’t judge, just observe.
  • If any thoughts come up, don’t resist them, simply allow them to pass without engaging in them. Imagine your thoughts as leaves floating down a stream, they are there, but you are just looking at them, observing them as they go by.
  • Continue noticing the space that is inside of you, use your breath to increase the space inside and around your body. If it helps, you can imagine this space as a white light, filling you and the space around you.
  • Go deeper into this space, allow your entire body and mind to sink deeper- keep up with your breathing and use each inhale and exhale to guide you.
  • Once you feel a connection to this space you may begin to feel tingles or the gentle hum of your soul.
  • At this stage, ask your soul for guidance, for a healing, or to present itself to you more clearly through life.
  • Notice what starts to occur within you now. All experiences will be different so stay open to what your soul is communicating to you.
  • Finish the mediation by gently coming back into the awareness of your physical body and opening your eyes.

You may need to practice this meditation a few times to really see the benefits. Start with just 15 minutes a day and work your way up to 30 minutes.

This article was originally appeared at and re-posted here with permission.

There are no mistakes in this world, we are all part of a universal masterpiece. We are bigger than you think, we are bigger than we have been conditioned to believe.

As we move through the evolution of thought we are beginning to remember that there is more, we are beginning to remember that we are the creators.

In order to create reality, science, spirituality and consciousness are all showing us that all things are alive with energy. As the quantum field begins to uncover a new understanding of our physical world, the ancient indigenous cultures are stirring with anticipation as we reconnect to knowledge they have held since the dawn of man. Prophecies are being fulfilled almost daily and there are only a few left.

For the past 250 years we have been taught to think our way through life, we have been taught to take the energy we need from our fellow man. Whether it is resources, physical labour, power, or fame. We have been taught wrong. We have been conditioned to believe that progression is based on lack, domination and fear.

Today as we begin to remember to feel our way through life via our higher self, our heart, our gut, or whatever name one chooses to call it. We are seeing that the planet itself is the balance of life, mother earth is the giver and taker of all the energy we could ever need, both positive and negative. We can get our energy from the mountains, the trees, the oceans, the wind, and the rivers. When you feel weak it is not right to attack someone else emotionally or physically, all we do is hurt one another and perpetuate the cycle of lack and limit. Nature will take that negative energy from you and bring balance to your life, topping you up with positive energy.

It is time to stop taking energy from one another. We have become so wrapped up in this commercial illusion that has been painted for us that we base our energy level, our thoughts, our emotions, our self esteem, on what other peoples thoughts and opinions are. It is time we start getting our energy from nature once again. No longer must you give your power and your energy, to someone else on the bases of their opinion or “norm”. The cycle of acceptance and social security is an illusion.

We are here to be who we are, we are not here to fit into groups or meet certain stereo types or criteria, we are not meant to take energy from one another. Earth is the great balance of polarity, we exist on earth for a reason. We do not feel captive by the earths thoughts or opinions of us, so why do we feel captive by other peoples thoughts of us or society’s thoughts of us? Because we are using energy wrong.

We have been taught and conditioned this way for a reason. We have been taught to use energy in this way to limit our own freedom and police our own power. To keep us from the truth that every single drop of energy is provided naturally. We do not need the system, acceptance or permission to have what we want. The earth provides us with all the energy we need to create. It is time we remembered we are the creators and our life energy exists outside in nature, not in other people.