Have you ever thought that your subconscious is trying to tell you something?

We’re all fighting uphill battles everyday, which is one thing we definitely share with each other. Our problems may be different, but we’re all basically going through the same motions, so to speak. What’s worse, however, is the self-sabotaging that we do to ourselves.

Instead of giving ourselves the breaks we need, we attack ourselves. We screw with ourselves and punish ourselves. Throughout all of this self-wreckage, our subconscious mind is trying to level with us. It’s trying to help us understand the importance of valuing ourselves.

So keep reading to find out what your subconscious mind wants you to know, based on the way you keep self-sabotaging yourself.

Worst enemy

Sometimes, we’re our own worst enemy. Instead of having people on the outside trying to sabotage us, we do it ourselves. Thanks to Thought Catalog, there is now a comprehensive way to best address this issue, looking through our subconscious minds to discover its best recommendations with helping ourselves out.

The negative return

It’s safe to say that quite a few of us have been in crappy relationships. What’s also true is that plenty of us have a tendency to return to people after breaking up who we know aren’t good for us. We remember the good times, but never the bad times, and as a result, we end up suffering.

The answer

Your subconscious mind wants you to realize that this is not a good move for you. If you enjoy being with someone who hurts you, then maybe this is rooted in something much more serious. Maybe you feel like you need to punish yourself with these people, even though you never actually did anything wrong.

The committing type

When we embark on relationships, it’s important that we find people are eager to commit, or at least willing to commit. However, if you keep finding yourself being attracted to people are unable or unwilling to commit, then you may want to ask yourself why you’re doing this to yourself.

Broken people

You tend to bring people into your life who are too broken to truly commit, and you do this because you think you are broken as well. The truth is, your subconscious wants you to know that this isn’t the case. You’re not too broken. You may be intimidated or afraid, but you’re not too broken.

Unhappiness

There’s nothing abnormal about feeling unhappy. It happens to the best of us, and even though it hurts, it’s OK. However, if you keep insisting that you’re unhappy, even though nothing is wrong, then there are underlying issues that you need to confront, and your subconscious mind is here to help.

From within

The biggest problem here is that you’re likely hoping that an outside source will play some role and help you out. You’re expecting change to come to you, when in reality, it doesn’t work like that. You need to take an active role in bettering yourself, and realizing that you have the ability to change your own mind and sense of purpose.

Pushing

The last thing you want to do is push people away in your life, especially when they’re positive elements in your life. If you realize that this is something you do, then it’s obvious that you’re sabotaging yourself. You need to listen to your subconscious and do what’s really going to benefit you.

Loss

You want love and connections, but you’re so afraid of the concept of loss, that you don’t even bother accepting positive connections in your life. You feel safer pushing people away, but this is such an unhealthy way to live. You will run into issues where you lose people, but it won’t be everyone. Not everyone will leave you.

Strange assumptions

It’s like swallowing a poisonous capsule when you convince yourself of something that isn’t even true. We do this to ourselves all the time, and we end up making situations so much more worse than they need to be. You think something, assume it’s true and then never accept that the truth is actually buried away elsewhere.

Belief

You have too much doubt in people. You’re afraid that people are out to get you, and you figure that you must be the only one with the right answers. As a result, you end up stressing yourself out over nothing. You put sink yourself into a pit of despair, even though the pit is completely unnecessary and only there because you put it there.

Crappy eating habits

We all know that bad food is bad for us, and we know exactly what those bad foods are… no matter how much we may try to convince ourselves otherwise. If you don’t want to eat poorly, but you’re doing it anyway, then there’s an underlying problem that your subconscious really wants you to recognize.

Stress eating

Honestly, you may just be incredibly stressed and overworked. People say that they turn to comfort foods when they’re stressed or depressed, and that’s because comfort foods are real. You may just need to give yourself a break every now and then.

Moving forward

If you want to move forward in life, you’ve got to put in the appropriate work. However, if you refuse to do that, then you’re only hurting yourself. You’re denying yourself opportunities that could move you forward, into a more comfortable area in life. Not doing these things will only make you feel stuck and incapable.

What we want

If this is something you can relate to, then it’s most likely happening because you’re on a path that you’re not entirely confident with. Maybe you don’t want what you think you want. Maybe you need to do some more digging. Maybe you need to find your true love.

Original source: Rebel Circus

How can we reprogram the subconscious mind? A Hindu Priest shares some great insights.

The subconscious mind is akin to that unseen portion of an iceberg which remains underwater. Some believe that up to 95% of our mental activity takes place in the subconscious, just below our conscious awareness. This ‘underwater’ portion of the mind is never inactive, though, as it continues to collect and process information even when we are asleep.

According to the Freudian model of the unconscious, the contents of the subregions of the mind are the primary guiding influence on a person’s behavior, habits and urges. And in his study of the psyche, revered psychoanalyst Carl Jung relates the importance of paying attention to what is going on in the lower parts of the mind, saying, “until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

Freudian model of the subconscious mind

While this model may be debatable to some scientists, sages and those devoted to personal development have long known that these regions of the mind are programmable with conscious intention, a process which can be achieved with affirmation and mantra.

As a spiritual tool, monks of the eastern traditions have been using mantras since time immemorial, most recognizably along with prayer beads. The value of this type of meditation is well-understood by practitioners, although, difficult to quantify. It offers a simple but powerful means of creating the emergence of desired positive outcomes in personality, habits, beliefs and emotions.

“Mantra is really just a specialized grouping of sounds and vibrations which positively affect the mental and physiological planes. The effects of sound on the brain have been demonstrated in Electro Encephala Graph (EEG) charts as well as by documented physical changes (skin temperature, heart rate, respiratory rate among them). While we may consciously want to remove certain thought patterns, they can be difficult to dislodge because they are formed at subconscious levels. This is where mantra can be very effective.” ~Christina Sarich

Speaking on how this process works, Hindu priest and international speaker Dandapāni explains how mantras are similar to affirmations in how they work to reprogram the subconscious mind. In an interview with Brian Rose of London Real, Dandapāni answers the question of why the simple concentrated repetition of sound can so powerfully brings about positive changes in personal behavior.

“You can say they are prayer beads, but they’re actually more like affirmation or mantra beads. So, we use these to actually program our subconscious. So as we chant on each bead, we chant an affirmation. I am happy, or I’m confident. And we repeat the same chant over and over again, and there are 108 beads… one chant over and over again.”

There is more to it than just saying a phrase 108 times, however, and as he explains, three ingredients are necessary: “Concise choice of positive words, clear visualization, and a corresponding feeling.”

The process of visualization is extremely important in clarifying for the mind the precise object in focus. If you were to chant, ‘I love apples,’ the brain would become confused by the word apple, however, unless a very clear picture of the apple is presented along with the mantra.

Regarding a corresponding feeling, he explains how feeling is emotion and emotion is energy, quoting the late Nikola Tesla.

“He [Tesla] had this beautiful saying which kind of encapsulates Hindu philosophy really well. He said that, ‘to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.’ Everything is made up of energy that’s vibrating at its own frequency. What we believe is that if your subconscious is filled with patterns that are vibrating at a certain frequency… and if you can go into your subconscious and create a pattern, infuse it with energy that’s vibrating at a certain frequency, you can attract things of a similar nature to it.”

The combined effect of intentionally applying sound, visualization and emotion to create positive change can override the contents of the subconscious mind. He elaborates further in the video below:

 

Original source: Waking Times

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The Human Mind is a wonderful masterpiece that has immense potentials. Most of the potentials, however, remain unused at most people, since it is not us who are in charge of things, our Mind takes control of us. Our Mind is rushing through life with us like a car running without a driver, causing us constant suffering and sorrow. But if we were able to control our Mind, our life would change completely. This mad speeding would change into a beautiful, creative dance, giving us happiness, instead of pain. The question is therefore, how we are able to take control over our Mind?

The Nature of the Mind

In order to control something, we first need to know the thing concerned¸ so we must know our Mind so as to be in charge of it. The most important thing we need to about our Mind is that it is not something that exists separately, individually, like some inanimate object. The Mind is not an object–it is a process. The process of constantly streaming thoughts. This stream of the thoughts is what we perceive as the Mind. When these thoughts disappear, the Mind disappears with them, as the two are only able to exist together. The very basic nature of thoughts is that they are in a constant move, and this motion, almost automatically, creates the Mind.

A characteristic feature of our Mind is that it keeps roaming, wandering; it operates in something like an automatic mode. Thoughts come and go all the time. If we attempt to suppress them, it is only possible with considerable efforts, and even then to a short time only. In most of our waking time, our Mind wanders either in the past or in the future, in our thoughts we deal with our experience of the past, offences we suffered in the past, or with our future plans, goals and fears.

Another characteristic of our Mind is that it constantly evaluates things. It means that we do not simply live through our experiences, but we also categorize them as good or bad. We judge everything that happens to us and everybody we meet in our lives. This permanent categorization may easily lead to a distorted perception of the world, as we evaluate our new experiences in these categories. If we find an experience negative, we will tend to keep–and reinforce–that category for similar experiences in the future. Our perception will therefore be selective, and we will only accept the stimuli that reinforces our categorization, and we tend to ignore those that fall outside our usual categories.

The third important characteristic of the Mind is that it permanently produces stories. These stories often have a disastrous end. For instance, I suddenly try to remember whether I locked the door of my home or not. The Mind immediately fabricates a whole story around the idea: I did leave it open, a burglar came, my valuables have been stolen, and the police, instead of chasing the thief, will harass me with their questions. We often experience the ends and emotional consequences of these stories. Another type of stories deals with us, who are we, what are we like, what we should do or should have done. The entirety of these stories comprises our personal histories.

A Foolish Game

Most people tend to identify with their thoughts and personal histories, that is, with their Minds. A lot of us are not satisfied with what we are, and we would like to have a better and more beautiful personal history. That is why we create a mental image of our desired personal development, and the ways of making the work of our Minds more effective.

In order to achieve the mental image we ourselves have created, we embark on a foolish game, as we attempt to bring our Minds under our own control, and be the masters of our own development. Since we do not know the nature of the Mind, this venture is destined to failure right from the beginning.

This game is foolish, since in fact one half of the Mind attempts to bring the other half under control. Our Mind itself deems our own mental image of our personal development good. At the same time, this half of the Mind deems the other half, the one we wish to change, bad. Mental images fight against each other, trying to overcome each other, using the weapons of selective perception and story fabrication. The struggle goes on, with changing luck, all through our lives. Sometimes we believe that we are making some progress, we are improving, and a few weeks, months or years later we drop into the abyss of despair.

A lot of us play this foolish game all through our lives, because we are unable to recognize the simple fact that a Mind is unable to overcome itself. We may, perhaps, with the utmost effort, suppress what we believe is bad in us. That is, however, just a virtual victory, leading us to virtual calm and personal development, because when our power declines, the suppressed forces break out again, destroying all the temporary results that we achieved previously, washing away the results of our personal development.

The Freedom of Tolerance

Now we can see that the way leading to our control over our Minds does not lead through suppressing them. It is not possible to control the Mind in the ordinary sense of the word. Partly because it only exists in its functions and operation, and partly because there is nobody to control it. One half of the Mind, as we have seen, does not control, only suppresses the other half.

In order to be able to control our Minds, we must step outside of them. This statement may sound surprising to a lot of us, since we tend to fully identify with our Minds and their operations. As long as this identification is strong, we shall not be able to step outside the crazy dance of our Minds; we will have to merely suffer its consequences.

Nowadays, however, more and more of us begin to realize and experience that we are more than our Minds, more that our thoughts and emotions, and the personal history these thoughts and emotions build up. Our attention is no longer completely engaged by telling our personal history and identifying with that personal history, and we become more and more sensitive to the deeper dimensions of our life. We also begin to notice the breaks between thoughts, and we begin to turn towards these gates leading beyond the Mind.

In these breaks between thoughts, Mind does not work, it is not there–it simply vanishes. What is left there is the alertly watching Consciousness. If we are able to take roots in that alert Consciousness, we recognize that this watching alertness is tolerant with the Mind and its operations. We shall see that there is nothing wrong with thoughts, nothing wrong with the operations of the Mind. It is not necessary to struggle against the Mind, as it is not an enemy, only an instrument that, without control, tends to function chaotically.

We only have a chance to know the true nature of thoughts and the functions of the Mind if we detach ourselves from them, keep a distance, and do not consider them as enemies. They will reveal their secrets to the alert Consciousness, watching with affection, and we will see the subtle shades of the Mind, the games it plays and the dreams it evokes.

Controlling the Mind

This tolerant, alert, watching attitude to the functions of the Mind will give us the ability of stopping our thinking effortlessly. Once thinking has been suspended, the continuous stream of thoughts stops, the Mind itself disappears and stops working.

Now we shall not seek our own identity in an identification with the Mind, since we have found our real center, our real self, our alertly watching Consciousness. We will be aware that thoughts and the Mind have not really disappeared, they are still there, only in a dormant state. Our attitude to thoughts and the Mind will entirely change at that moment. We think when necessary, and we do not need the Mind, we put it aside. The Mind no longer dominates our life, it is not more than an obedient tool that we use or not use as we please.

That is when we realize how wonderful an instrument the Mind is, and now we are able to use it for its original purpose. And the purpose of the Mind is to serve as a means of connections, to connect us to the world, to each other. Through the Mind, used with alert Consciousness, creative energies are released to the world, and create a wonderful harmony there.

Original source: The Mind Unleashed

Learn more here>> Frank M. WandererThe Revolution of Consciousness: Deconditioning the Programmed Mind

False beliefs create a mental prison.

Undoubtedly, the beliefs that paralyze us the most, concern our own potential. They can imprison us in a world where we are unable to see our own talents and abilities.

False beliefs about what we can or can’t achieve in our lives deprive us of one of our greatest freedoms: the freedom to access our full potential and act on it.

If you happen to believe in the idea that you won’t succeed in life because you didn’t have the good fortune to get a regular education, then this idea will surely dominate your life, your expectations, your decisions, your goals, and your overall attitude. This belief will act as a program of your mind and will guide all your actions, produce low expectations and underestimate everything you achieve in life.

How can such an idea be transformed into a deeply rooted, limiting belief? How does it begin to take control of our lives?

It all begins when we end up with incorrect conclusions, based on incorrect assumptions we have accepted as being true.

See how it works:

Initial premise: My parents never went to school.

Second premise: My parents didn’t do much in their lives.

Conclusion: Since neither I did go to school, I probably will not do much in my life.

Do you realize the devastating consequences of this generalization? People can create the most destructive vicious cycle imaginable through their own internal dialogue.

If they consider themselves less capable, the world around them perceives them in the same way. When they show this apparent inadequacy, then others behave them accordingly, which only works as a confirmation of what they already know – that they have no hope.

In reality, the fact that your parents didn’t do much may have little or nothing to do with their education. And, even if the lack of success was the result of their limited training, that does not mean that you will also be led to the same result. So, be careful in your internal dialogue.

When Joe Ferrer emigrated to Australia to begin a new life, he felt horrified at the prospect of having to deal with a job other than the one he had been prepared for. Besides, he had spent many years studying the profession he had chosen.

Although there was little demand for this art in the new country, thinking to dare to pursue a new industry was enough to make him feel anxious and afraid of his future. For a long time, this fear prevented him from looking in any other direction at a professional level. Of course, there were other arts he liked to practice, but what would parents or friends think if they learned he had abandoned his career?

His fear became worse because of his belief that moving to a new industry would mean that all these years of study were gone. But, what if he made the wrong choice?

Watch: Overcome Fear

For years, his belief that everyone has to remain in the field they have studied made him paralyze, leaving him incapable of making a decision. Only when he realized the devastating effects of this attitude (which was based on another false assumption) got energized, took action, and moved forward with his life.

In the era of the global market, the reduction of staff and the high mobility of the workforce, this is a choice that more and more people are called upon to face. Many of them, like Joe, are trembling at the idea that they should do something different from what they have been trained for. This fear is particularly risky, as some research shows that workers will face an average of seven career changes in their lives.

Luckily, Joe decided to defeat his fear and be tried out in a completely different field. The result of his decision to act was that he not only felt a special attraction for his new career but also had a great success in a relatively short period of time and now enjoys his professional life more than ever.

Many people are afraid of the new or the unknown. Sometimes this fear of non-familiarity prevents them from finding new delights even in the most basic things. We avoid trying new flavors or exploring different cultures or new hobbies. Making it safe is a way of life that limits growth potential and creates many irrational fears.

“Better to stay in what you know”, “Why do you spoil something good?”, “If it’s not damaged, do not correct it.” All these well-known expressions tend to discourage us from leaving the area where we feel comfort and security.

However, the apparent security of the familiar can prevent us and will prevent us from making important professional changes that we are delaying for a long time, or overcome exploitative relationships from fear of ending in worse conditions.

What is the lesson here?

We need to look at whether the fears, concerns, and uncertainties we feel are the result of the false beliefs we have developed in our lives. You must not accept limitations without wondering whether or not they are true.

Remember that you will always be what you think you are. If you think you can do it, you will probably do it. If you think you will not succeed, you have already lost. The decision is up to you!

This article appeared on antikleidi.com and translated by Visual Meditation.

The origin of the text is based on the book Once Upon a Cow: Eliminating Excuses and Settling for Nothing but Success, Camilo Cruz (Greek Version).

Picture a shy guy. This guy does not like speaking out loud, especially if there are a lot of people around. So, if this guy were to speak before a large group of people he would probably feel really frightened, resulting in high levels of stress, his heart rate rising and so on.

Adrenaline, better known as the fight-or-flight hormone, is what causes these physiological symptoms to occur during times of stress, and happens naturally to prepare your body to deal with danger or unexpected situations. In addition to this, adrenaline boosts your awareness, and heightens your energy-levels to a great extent, resulting in restlessness and stress.

You have probably stumbled upon a feeling like this before, and if you have, you know how uncomfortable it is. Indeed, adrenaline might ruin your performance. Therefore, theoretically, if you learn to control your adrenaline, you will be able to deal with such situations much easier, and consequently achieve better results at any field of your life.

Although this might sound hard, it is actually quite easy to do. I have listed for you below, 3 simple steps to instantly achieve control of your adrenaline levels. Implement them to your lifestyle, and become more calm in an instant.

1. Practice Relaxation Techniques

There are several relaxation techniques specifically developed to decrease levels of stress. Most of which are based on handling the common symptoms of adrenaline. These techniques are simple, easy to learn and very effective. What is more, they are designed to work in an instant. Indeed, when these techniques are perfected (which is easy) you can reach a state of relaxation in any situation.

Watch: Release Stress

All this taken in consideration, these exercises are great for lowering stress, which is why I have listed below my top 3 relaxation techniques and how to perform them.

A. Breathe Deeply

In times of stress it is favourable to take a quick break and start breathing slowly.

Breath through your nose and let the air fill your abdomen. Truly feel the air rushing through your body while you focus on keeping a consistent tempo. However, don’t think too much about how long your inhale or exhale should be, as this might distract you. Just focus on deep breathing.

Breathing like this stops the acute adrenaline shock by lowering your blood pressure and slowing down your heart rate.

B. Be Present

Stop what you are doing and take a moment to focus on everything that surrounds you. Pay attention to environmental details.

Follow all movements you notice closely.

Next, focus on how your body feels by paying attention to all of your senses. Take pleasure in everything around you and realize that you are just a small brick in this huge world. Reaching this state will make you feel a lot less tense.

C. Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Slow down and take a moment to focus on the difference between relaxation and tension. Slowly tense and relax several muscle groups over and over again until you feel the stress leave your body.

This will help you focus on the physical sensations and make you pay less attention to the thoughts that stress you.

2. Divert Your Mind

This is a special way of diverting the secretion of adrenaline and is inspired from the practices of hypnotics. The way it works is a little complicated, but it has to do with tricking your subconsciousness so that you remain calm.

First thing you do is find an object that always seem to awake good memories. Something you used to play with in your childhood or a tool that helped you overcome tough times in your past. I for example, chose a glittering marble that I used to play around with whenever I was bored as a kid. The reason I chose this particular object is because it brings me a great deal of nostalgia, and for me that is a sweet and heartwarming feeling.

When you have found your heartwarming and emotionally loaded object, you may want to properly connect it to your memories. To do that you will have to play with or use the object just as you did in the past. As an example, let’s take my marble again. I would have to play around with it while bored once again to reinforce the connection I have with it and reawaken forgotten memories.

Until now you have connected a special object to a feeling. It is now time for you to put it into practice. What you do is take your object out with you out, and if a stressful situation occurs, be sure to hold it tight. Of course, If your chosen object is too big you won’t be able to hold it. In that case you will do fine by just thinking about it.

If this is done right you will find that you experience greater calm during stressful situations like a presentation or job interview.

3. Take Magnesium

This is not an “in the moment” method. However, it is the best way to prevent a sudden adrenaline boost from happening at all,  allowing you to keep your calm during stressful situations. Sadly, this is also one of the most underrated methods.

I am talking about taking magnesium as a supplement.

Magnesium has been proven to reduce your cortisol levels significantly,  and we all know how bad cortisol is for the body. Besides adrenaline itself, cortisol is the absolute worst hormone to be overexposed to and will stress you out. Therefore, getting rid of any excess cortisol production will elevate how relaxed you feel.

What is more, when you produce less cortisol in stressful situations, it will also dampen the nerve wrecking symptoms of the actual adrenaline boost and thereby keep you calm.

Luckily, you can easily find magnesium supplements online or in a health store.

This article was originally published at Pick The Brain.

About the author

Ryan Steele is a blogger on the field of masculinity, and the administrator for the image consulting website Enhance-Masculinity. You may visit the website here: https://www.enhance-masculinity.com. The website seeks to inspire its audience to live life to its fullest potential through articles on lifting, identity, success and women.