We all know that life sometimes can become unbearable. We may feel that everything is falling apart around us.

Work, money, family, friends… all these things can contribute to the stress of life. When you feel that your whole world is falling apart, you have to learn how to stop and evaluate the situation.

It’s not easy, but it’s possible if you do the right things.

Take time to pray

Or, if it is not something you apply, you can spend some time in your day to focus on your positive energy. You will be surprised how much calmer and concentrated you feel by forcing yourself to devote a minute to focus on all the positive energy around you and within you.

Worry less

Worrying creates anxiety and makes it hard to do what you need to do. Try to focus on the steps needed to be taken to fix any problem or challenge that has arisen. If you have lost your job, worrying about how to pay your bills will not make more money to your bank account.

Instead of worrying, make a plan on how to go ahead. Put all your energy and do not let yourself sink into negativity.

Pain is temporary

No matter what you are going through right now, be it money problems, family problems or emotional collapse, remember that the pain you feel is temporary. Remember that you have not always felt that way, and you will be able to handle it more easily, instead of letting it crush you.

The problems of others are not your responsibility

When you feel that your own life is burdened with a lot of issues, remember that you shouldn’t take the burden of other people’s problems. Being open and available to help others when they need is definitely a good thing. However, you have to make sure that you set limits and you do not allow other people’s problems to become your responsibility, especially when you have serious problems yourself.

Move forward

When you feel your life is falling apart, the only possible direction is to move forward. Even when it seems impossible for you, you have to remember that you can rise again and continue trying for the best. A failure on the road doesn’t mean that all your plans should be derailed. Life can be tough but you are stronger than the challenges it brings.


Sometimes, it’s OK to cry when you need it. When things go wrong or when sadness becomes overwhelming, it is natural to want to cry. To give in to your feelings does not make you weak. Often, you will find that once you let yourself let go and cry, it clears your mind and you are able to take the next logical step forward on your journey.

Look for the positive in every situation

When life is falling apart around you, it can be hard to keep seeing the positive side of a situation. Try to see the sun behind the clouds.

If you have a bad break up, try to see it as a new opportunity to find the right partner. If you lose your job, see it as a chance to re-start your life with a career you really love.

Do not let yourself sink into pessimism. A positive view can completely transform your life.

Feel gratitude

When things are falling apart, it can be hard to see what things in your life do not go wrong. Take a moment to think about the things in your life that are stable, and all that you are grateful for.

Your ability to think positively will help you see your problems from a different perspective. If you lost your job, be grateful for the people who support you. If you have family difficulties, take the time to appreciate your partner.

Everyone has problems

Sometimes, it’s relieving to know that you are not the only one facing challenges. Remind yourself that there are people who have gone through the same or worst storms than you, giving you the boost you need to move forward.

H/T: Flow Magazine

Use these psychology hacks to improve the outcome of any social situation.

Social situations are among the most important in our lives. Psychologists who have a keen eye for details keep discovering new behavioral patterns that are believed to be rooted in our childhood and can be applied to everyone.

This list of psychology hacks hopefully will improve your communication skills and make your life easier in social situations.

1. Do you want to know if someone likes you?

Each time that a person uses a word, or a synonym of that word, nod, and smile. If the person likes you, they will start using that word all the time. From this point on, act accordingly.

2. If you want people to agree with you, try this.

When you are speaking to a person, maintain eye contact and nod. The ‘nod’ means ‘everything I am saying is true.’ People tend to like mimicking, so they will most probably nod back while you talk. This will subsequently communicate to their brains that they have to agree with you.

This one is powerful and also a bit manipulative. So, use it with your own responsibility and in an ethical way.

3. Want to see if someone is paying attention to what you are saying? Fold your arms.

Usually when we are in the middle of a conversation and especially if we talk about something very important to us, we get lost in our talking and rarely pay attention to whether the other person is following us or not.

So, instead of losing time talking to a person who is distracted and might not even be interested in what you are saying, do this: fold your arms while talking and see if the other person follows your movements. If the other person is observing you and pays attention, they will most likely mimic you.

4. Is that person staring at me?

If you would like to find out if someone is staring at you, yawn. Then, look there way. If the person yawns too, they are watching you, because yawning is contagious.

5. Want to know who likes who in a group of people?

Make a joke that is laughter inducing, and then glance around the group. People will immediately glance at the person in the group they feel closest to as they laugh.

6. Pay attention to people’s feet.

If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation.

Similarly, if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end.

7. Having trouble remembering names? Repeat the other person’s name during the conversation.

Remembering names is very important because we feel important when someone mentions us. So the moment you meet someone, repeat his name.

Example: “Hi. my name is Alex.” “Nice to meet you Alex. So, Alex how do you know John?” Then, continue to repeat his name for a few more times throughout the conversation.

8. Assume comfort in any interaction.

Our brain is an incredibly complicated instrument. We think we have control over it but it usually dictates our actions unconsciously.

In most of the social situations, we find it difficult to feel comfortable among strangers because our brain tries to protect us from an unknown environment.

This, however, isn’t helping us when trying to be social and meet new people, is it?

This is why assuming comfort is so powerful. Commanding your brain to feel that you already know the person you are about to meet, puts you in a position of advantage. It increases the chances of people showing interest in you and consequently even liking you.

9. If you want people to feel good, give them validation. Rephrase what they just told you.

We love validation. Most of our actions are the outcome of our need for validation. So what is the best way to get people to like you? Give them what they need, of course.

A simple example is when you are in a conversation with another person and he says something really important for him. After he finishes, rephrase what he just said in your own words. This will make him think that you are a good listener and that you are really interested in what he says. That makes him feel he is the center of attention.

10. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer, just wait. They will keep talking.

This is a very common situation when you don’t know the other person that well or your question wasn’t clear enough. If they finish the answer without providing a full answer, just wait. Stay silent and keep eye contact. If the tension becomes unbearable, raise your eyebrows. It puts a bit of pressure on them but it communicates that you show interest. It also sub-communicates that you are a person that usually gets what he wants.

11. Confidence is more important than knowledge.

Two young candidates walked into the interview office to apply for the same job. The first one had a Ph.D., two Masters and a Bachelor’s degree. The second one had just a Bachelor. The first one was kind of shy, didn’t talk much, his body language was turned inward. The second one had an upright posture, was looking the interviewers directly in the eyes, showed a lot of interest in the job and his answers were emitting confidence. We don’t have to tell you who got the job.

12. Fake it until you make it.

No one became an expert on anything over night. However, the learning process in everything you do is accelerated by commanding your brain to think what you want it to think.

In simple words. You are what you believe you are. You are confident if you believe you are confident. You are attractive if you believe you are attractive. You are extrovert if you believe you are extrovert If you want to look deeper into this idea look up two words: Neuroplasticity and brain rewiring.

13. If you want to be persuasive, try and reduce the use of the words “I think” and “I believe.”

I don’t really feel the need to elaborate on this one. Obviously, these words do not evoke confidence and the other person will most probably not take you seriously. Change them to ‘I know’ and ‘I will’ instead.

14. A clean and organized environment affects your mood, productivity, and others perception of who you are.

How many times have you waken up without any motivation at all? How many times have you started working on something without being able to get focused and inspired?

Next time this happens, take a look around you. Is your environment clean and well-organized? If not, take some minutes to clean it up and put everything into place. You will feel refreshed and reborn and productivity will spark immediately. But not only that, you will come across as caring and punctual, two highly esteemed traits.

Why do you think most of the big companies pay so much attention to creating the best working environment for their employees? They know what makes them happy and how it affects their productivity.

15. When someone insults you, either ignore him or mock him. Never lose temper.

Haters are everywhere. The more you feed them with hate, the stronger they become. Never lose your temper. This is a great example of how to deal with a hater.

16. Stand up straight, hands out of your pockets and always keep eye contact.

Do the following:

  • Keep a straight posture and walk like a born leader. This sub-communicates confidence and others will respect you automatically.
  • Keep your hands out of your pockets. If you don’t know what to do with them, it is better to fold your arms rather than keep them inside your pockets.
  • You have heard this a thousand times. Here is the 1001st. – never lose eye contact! Losing eye contact is like losing your confidence. One cool trick when first meeting someone is to focus on their eye color and smile at the same time. The eyes are the gateway to the soul, and taking the extra second to gaze shows you are confident and present. (Be sure to move your eyes away periodically, a constant stare will probably creep people out.)

17. Don’t be afraid to touch another person.

Touching someone on the shoulder or their knees create an emotional and physical bond. Especially during moments of joy, laughter, and excitement touching positively reinforce these traits.

18. If you work in a bar or in customer service of any kind.

Put a mirror behind you at the counter. When an angry customer approaches you, he will have to see himself in the mirror and will most probably calm down. Nobody likes ruining his image.

19. Chew gum if you are nervous.

Evolutionarily speaking, our brain assume that if we are eating then we aren’t in any immediate danger, so the fight or flight response is weakened.

20. Refer to people by their name.

If you’ve just met someone, refer to them by their name. People loving being referred to by their name and this will establish a sense of trust and friendship immediately.

21. Want to ace an interview?

People tend to remember the beginning and end of an event. Because of that, try to start and end the interview strongest. The middle will most likely be a blur, so during that time, if you don’t do so well, you should still do well overall.

Do you have some other interesting psychology hacks to suggest? Share them in the comments below.


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Study of the human brain is one of the most complex and intriguing areas of research that is prominent today.

It has been this way since the 1870s, when psychology gained its independence from philosophy as a field of study. Technological advances and a seemingly endless amount of research have allowed us to learn a great deal about the brain. However we’ve still only scratched the surface.

Check out these five need-to-know facts of psychology, and maybe start living your life a bit differently:

1. If you announce your goals to others, you become less likely to achieve them because you lose motivation, studies show – As early as 1933, tests have shown that once intended goals are announced aloud, people are less likely to follow through with them as they lose motivation.

This is thought to happen because announcing one’s goals satisfies a person’s self-identity just enough to prevent them from performing the hard work to achieve those goals.

2. Most people’s favorite song is associated with an emotional event in their lives – It’s fairly well known that music has a direct effect on emotion and our brains. A recent study on nine undergraduate students found that the flip side is true as well, smells and other sense-based stimulants can remind of us moments in the past.

3. You’ll be happier spending your money on experiences, rather than material possessions – Happiness is becoming increasingly popular in the scientific field of study on emotional well-being.

Research in this area suggests that people often sacrifice things that make them happy. Things as going on vacation or attending events, in order to afford possessions (like property).

4. Kids are more high-strung these days, with high school students showing the same level of anxiety as the average psychiatric patient in the 1950’s – About 49% of the general population suffers or has suffered from anxiety, depression, or substance abuse at some point in their life. There is actual proof that the human race, collectively, is becoming more and more anxious with each passing decade.

There are many speculations as to why this is, a common one being that people move more often, interact less with their communities, change jobs, are less likely to get married and more likely to spend their time alone.

5. Surrounding yourself with happy people helps you to become happier too – New research published in the Psychoneuroendocrinology Journal shows that stress and happiness are both contagious, and that being around either one of these groups influences us in a direct way.

Are you aware of other interesting facts of psychology? If yes, share with us in the comments below.

Original source: Expanded Consciousness

The fast-paced world we live in has lead us to obtain certain unhealthy and toxic habits which affect our physical, as well as mental health. Somehow, our desire to achieve more has contributed to a reduced work productivity. Over time, we develop bad habits like smoking, unhealthy diet, and many other we were not even aware of. Why? Because we create an illusion that these habits keep us in balance.

Working mothers are in the worst position since they are required to juggle their personal and professional lives. The solution to this problem is rather simple – focusing on one task at a time. It is a common misconception that multitasking is vital for business success. Many are those who believe that the ability to single-task, i.e. work until a certain goal is achieved, is what leads to accomplishing long-lasting results. And what’s the key? One word – Flow.

The Theory of Flow

Flow represents the state of mind in which a person is fully focused on the task at hand; completely immersing themselves in it, losing track of time. When in the state of flow, you forget about everything; yourself, others, the entire world around you; at the same time, you are overwhelmed by the feeling of happiness; you become creative, motivated and highly productive. You no longer allow yourself to get easily interrupted by minor things but stay engaged with the challenging task you are working on.

How can you turn your entire (work) life around? According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, researcher at the University of California, “40% of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change.” So, what are some of the things we can actually do today, to avoid going back to our old habits tomorrow?

1. Start healthy

First off, don’t wake up with the regret of what you could have, or should have done yesterday; focus on what you can do today. To get the most of your day, start it with a positive attitude and a torrent of energy. Furthermore, substitute your first cup of coffee for the first glass of lemon water. It will help you rehydrate your body and flush your digestive system. You will balance your metabolism, and as a result, get a leaner figure. If you lead a hectic lifestyle, developing healthy habits may be difficult as you probably don’t have much time to prepare your own healthy food and work out. Fortunately, you can get protein drinks and other supplements to help with your nutrition and make baby steps when it comes to your fitness routine.  Also, don’t forget to drink a lot of fluids later during the day to avoid dehydration, dizziness and, ultimately, lowered productivity.

Dry brushing before showering is also advisable as a regular part of a morning routine, as it increases circulation, providing you with more energy. Starting with your feet and hands, the skin is commonly brushed towards the chest, that is – the heart.

2. Start strong

It is essential to organize your time around your body’s natural rhythm. When it comes to any kind of cognitive work, a greater number of adults proved to perform better in the morning. For this reason, more challenging tasks should be dealt with earlier in a day, as concentration and alertness tend to descend as time passes.

3. Define your goals

Setting personal goals provides you with a long-term vision, as well as a short-term motivation. They help you get a clearer vision of where you want to go in life and on what you should concentrate your efforts. Ensure you set a SMART goal; and by that, we mean Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound. If they feel a bit abstract – write them down, plan the steps and cross off one after the other as you complete them.

4. Concentrate on self-comparison

The reason certain people struggle with insecurity is that they compare themselves to others, thus keeping themselves reserved and self-conscious. The biggest issue here is that we are never fully familiar with someone else’s story, and we are only presented with fragments of it. Only jealousy and resentment can come of it. Instead, focus on your journey; we all carry a unique footprint no one else possesses and we can utilize it to create something exceptional.

5. Limit the decision-making

By placing a time limit on decision-making, you will yield higher quality choices. By setting deadlines, you force yourself to spring into action. This technique proved to be extremely useful when conducting team meetings and brainstorming sessions. This way, everyone knows that there will be a vote at a specific time and it won’t lead to an endless and pointless debate.

It was Aristotle who said “We are what we repeatedly do; that excellence is not an act, but a force of habit,” so how long do you want to continue to live with the bad ones? Are they really beneficial? No. And today is a good day to quit your bad habits and focus only on what’s going to build your confidence from the ground up.

This article was originally created and published by Visual Meditation. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution (active link to this article) and author bio.

Feeling stuck? I don’t mean stuck between a rock and a hard place and I don’t mean trapped in a physically uncomfortable position. What I’m saying is, “Have you reached a plateau in your life and now have no idea where to go?” If you answered yes, then you are not alone.

I personally do not feel stuck, caught in a hard place of indecision maybe, but not stuck. I know what I want out of life, it’s just the obstacles that I’m facing that are large and scary. If you are feeling stuck, however, there are no visible obstacles, at least none we want to admit, only flat places in our line of sight, and this lonely place is rather uninspired.

Not to worry, it’s not all lost and you can strike back onto the path of success. All it takes is the right reinforcement and motivation.

Better yet, here are seven ways to break from that stuck place in your life:

1. Face your fears

Okay, so I stressed that there were no visible obstacles, right? Well, “visible” is the key word here. Deep within the recesses of your mind lies the invisible obstacles which are holding you back. You have semi-hidden fear residing inside your mind. This means the first step you must take is to pull back the veil, revealing those fears and get prepared to stare them down.

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Once you can see them clearly, you will be able to defeat those things on your way and cross over to a whole new level of adventure. It’s like a video game, each level is filled with magnificent new things to discover and conquer.

2. Change your perspectives

When you see that plateau, climb up onto the flat surface, you are faced with one perspective. If you stare long enough, you might give up on seeing things any other way. Many of us do that on a daily basis.

Now, by changing perspectives, almost as if you are changing your lenses in a pair of glasses, you will be able to see things in a different way. Are you really at a plateau in your life, or is the flat surface just a calm ocean? Maybe if you stir things up a bit, opportunities will surface. See! What a different way to look at things!

3. Know the Facts

Many times when we are feeling stuck, our emotions paint the picture of our lives. We don’t always base our current positions in life on facts. Unfortunately, without the facts, we are assuming there is nowhere left to go. So you finished all your work, so you ran out of ideas. So what!

The fact remains that there are countless ideas to discover and analyze. If you are a writer, just start keeping a journal. Deep within that journal will be your next breakthrough idea. If you are a painter, just taking the time to do brush exercises will help you bring out new techniques, maybe the next work of art that will set you for life. You never know. Know the facts and the facts are, there is always more!

4. Take responsibility

If you are feeling stuck in life, there is no one to blame but yourself. It was the road you chose that led you to where you are today. A better response to your predicament, other than playing the blame game, is to use that responsibility to do something about your life.

If you are stuck on this path, walk another road for awhile, learn a new hobby or take a vacation. Jump start your life and break the flat iron of your plateau. Emotions will tell you story after story about why you can’t make it, but facts only have one. You might be amazed by what happens when you pay attention to the truth.

5. Take a fresh look

One of the simplest ways to break out of a rut is to take time away from the problem. Now, I’m not saying give up or avoid the situation, what I’m saying is it may be best to put “fresh eyes” on the matter in order to see possible openings for advancement.

Many times, you cannot see opportunities because you have been staring right at them. It’s strange how things become visible once you’ve stepped away and returned to the scene later on. Clouds will disappear and objects can be seen upon the clear waters of a once barren ocean.

6. Do not listen to gossip

One of the worst things to do when feeling stuck in life is to listen to others’ opinions. There’s no way they can understand your situation better than you do, and basically, they cannot help either. The real reason they talk is for entertainment, and their talk will harm you more than empowering your life.

Learn to ignore what others say about you problem, and then learn to listen to yourself. You are worthy, and your intelligence will pull you through. You don’t need any negative opinions.

7. Now, how do you feel?

Feeling stuck? Before you lose your cool and say something you might regret later, think about it this way. It’s only temporary. Before long, you will be the rising star, the one in the spotlight and the confident success story. Nothing is permanent, and this goes for that plateau we talked about.

When feeling overwhelmed and with no place to go, read through these tips. They just may be the thing that causes your breakthrough. Remember to share your success story and help someone else in their time of need. You never know if that might be you once again.

The only difference now is, you know what to do about it.