The fast-paced world we live in has lead us to obtain certain unhealthy and toxic habits which affect our physical, as well as mental health. Somehow, our desire to achieve more has contributed to a reduced work productivity. Over time, we develop bad habits like smoking, unhealthy diet, and many other we were not even aware of. Why? Because we create an illusion that these habits keep us in balance.

Working mothers are in the worst position since they are required to juggle their personal and professional lives. The solution to this problem is rather simple – focusing on one task at a time. It is a common misconception that multitasking is vital for business success. Many are those who believe that the ability to single-task, i.e. work until a certain goal is achieved, is what leads to accomplishing long-lasting results. And what’s the key? One word – Flow.

The Theory of Flow

Flow represents the state of mind in which a person is fully focused on the task at hand; completely immersing themselves in it, losing track of time. When in the state of flow, you forget about everything; yourself, others, the entire world around you; at the same time, you are overwhelmed by the feeling of happiness; you become creative, motivated and highly productive. You no longer allow yourself to get easily interrupted by minor things but stay engaged with the challenging task you are working on.

How can you turn your entire (work) life around? According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, researcher at the University of California, “40% of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change.” So, what are some of the things we can actually do today, to avoid going back to our old habits tomorrow?

1. Start healthy

First off, don’t wake up with the regret of what you could have, or should have done yesterday; focus on what you can do today. To get the most of your day, start it with a positive attitude and a torrent of energy. Furthermore, substitute your first cup of coffee for the first glass of lemon water. It will help you rehydrate your body and flush your digestive system. You will balance your metabolism, and as a result, get a leaner figure. If you lead a hectic lifestyle, developing healthy habits may be difficult as you probably don’t have much time to prepare your own healthy food and work out. Fortunately, you can get protein drinks and other supplements to help with your nutrition and make baby steps when it comes to your fitness routine.  Also, don’t forget to drink a lot of fluids later during the day to avoid dehydration, dizziness and, ultimately, lowered productivity.

Dry brushing before showering is also advisable as a regular part of a morning routine, as it increases circulation, providing you with more energy. Starting with your feet and hands, the skin is commonly brushed towards the chest, that is – the heart.

2. Start strong

It is essential to organize your time around your body’s natural rhythm. When it comes to any kind of cognitive work, a greater number of adults proved to perform better in the morning. For this reason, more challenging tasks should be dealt with earlier in a day, as concentration and alertness tend to descend as time passes.

3. Define your goals

Setting personal goals provides you with a long-term vision, as well as a short-term motivation. They help you get a clearer vision of where you want to go in life and on what you should concentrate your efforts. Ensure you set a SMART goal; and by that, we mean Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound. If they feel a bit abstract – write them down, plan the steps and cross off one after the other as you complete them.

4. Concentrate on self-comparison

The reason certain people struggle with insecurity is that they compare themselves to others, thus keeping themselves reserved and self-conscious. The biggest issue here is that we are never fully familiar with someone else’s story, and we are only presented with fragments of it. Only jealousy and resentment can come of it. Instead, focus on your journey; we all carry a unique footprint no one else possesses and we can utilize it to create something exceptional.

5. Limit the decision-making

By placing a time limit on decision-making, you will yield higher quality choices. By setting deadlines, you force yourself to spring into action. This technique proved to be extremely useful when conducting team meetings and brainstorming sessions. This way, everyone knows that there will be a vote at a specific time and it won’t lead to an endless and pointless debate.

It was Aristotle who said “We are what we repeatedly do; that excellence is not an act, but a force of habit,” so how long do you want to continue to live with the bad ones? Are they really beneficial? No. And today is a good day to quit your bad habits and focus only on what’s going to build your confidence from the ground up.

Feeling stuck? I don’t mean stuck between a rock and a hard place and I don’t mean trapped in a physically uncomfortable position. What I’m saying is, “Have you reached a plateau in your life and now have no idea where to go?” If you answered yes, then you are not alone.

I personally do not feel stuck, caught in a hard place of indecision maybe, but not stuck. I know what I want out of life, it’s just the obstacles that I’m facing that are large and scary. If you are feeling stuck, however, there are no visible obstacles, at least none we want to admit, only flat places in our line of sight, and this lonely place is rather uninspired.

Not to worry, it’s not all lost and you can strike back onto the path of success. All it takes is the right reinforcement and motivation.

Better yet, here are seven ways to break from that stuck place in your life:

1. Face your fears

Okay, so I stressed that there were no visible obstacles, right? Well, “visible” is the key word here. Deep within the recesses of your mind lies the invisible obstacles which are holding you back. You have semi-hidden fear residing inside your mind. This means the first step you must take is to pull back the veil, revealing those fears and get prepared to stare them down.

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Once you can see them clearly, you will be able to defeat those things on your way and cross over to a whole new level of adventure. It’s like a video game, each level is filled with magnificent new things to discover and conquer.

2. Change your perspectives

When you see that plateau, climb up onto the flat surface, you are faced with one perspective. If you stare long enough, you might give up on seeing things any other way. Many of us do that on a daily basis.

Now, by changing perspectives, almost as if you are changing your lenses in a pair of glasses, you will be able to see things in a different way. Are you really at a plateau in your life, or is the flat surface just a calm ocean? Maybe if you stir things up a bit, opportunities will surface. See! What a different way to look at things!

3. Know the Facts

Many times when we are feeling stuck, our emotions paint the picture of our lives. We don’t always base our current positions in life on facts. Unfortunately, without the facts, we are assuming there is nowhere left to go. So you finished all your work, so you ran out of ideas. So what!

The fact remains that there are countless ideas to discover and analyze. If you are a writer, just start keeping a journal. Deep within that journal will be your next breakthrough idea. If you are a painter, just taking the time to do brush exercises will help you bring out new techniques, maybe the next work of art that will set you for life. You never know. Know the facts and the facts are, there is always more!

4. Take responsibility

If you are feeling stuck in life, there is no one to blame but yourself. It was the road you chose that led you to where you are today. A better response to your predicament, other than playing the blame game, is to use that responsibility to do something about your life.

If you are stuck on this path, walk another road for awhile, learn a new hobby or take a vacation. Jump start your life and break the flat iron of your plateau. Emotions will tell you story after story about why you can’t make it, but facts only have one. You might be amazed by what happens when you pay attention to the truth.

5. Take a fresh look

One of the simplest ways to break out of a rut is to take time away from the problem. Now, I’m not saying give up or avoid the situation, what I’m saying is it may be best to put “fresh eyes” on the matter in order to see possible openings for advancement.

Many times, you cannot see opportunities because you have been staring right at them. It’s strange how things become visible once you’ve stepped away and returned to the scene later on. Clouds will disappear and objects can be seen upon the clear waters of a once barren ocean.

6. Do not listen to gossip

One of the worst things to do when feeling stuck in life is to listen to others’ opinions. There’s no way they can understand your situation better than you do, and basically, they cannot help either. The real reason they talk is for entertainment, and their talk will harm you more than empowering your life.

Learn to ignore what others say about you problem, and then learn to listen to yourself. You are worthy, and your intelligence will pull you through. You don’t need any negative opinions.

7. Now, how do you feel?

Feeling stuck? Before you lose your cool and say something you might regret later, think about it this way. It’s only temporary. Before long, you will be the rising star, the one in the spotlight and the confident success story. Nothing is permanent, and this goes for that plateau we talked about.

When feeling overwhelmed and with no place to go, read through these tips. They just may be the thing that causes your breakthrough. Remember to share your success story and help someone else in their time of need. You never know if that might be you once again.

The only difference now is, you know what to do about it.


Three important decisions you take each moment, control your future.

They define what you perceive, feel, do, and, eventually, what you contribute and what kind of person you will become. If you don’t control these three decisions, you won’t be able to control your life. Once you control them, you will begin to sculpt the experience of your existence.

The three important decisions that control your future are:

  1. What you will focus on
  2. How you will interpret the circumstances
  3. What you will do to achieve the desired result

Thus, what you will become is not determined by what’s happening to you right now or has happened in your past. Instead, your future is determined by the following factors: where you choose to focus, how you interpret things and what you do.

If someone is more successful than you in any area, this means that he takes different decisions than you in the same circumstances or in the same situation.

Obviously, Ed Roberts has chosen to focus on something completely different from those who were in the same position with him. He focused on finding a way to improve the lives of people with disabilities. The disabilities were a “challenge” for him and he chose to do whatever will help those who were in the same situation. He devoted himself entirely to the formation of an environment that would improve the quality of life of all people with disabilities.

I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.

– Henry David Thoreau

Most people do not consciously take most of their decisions, especially these three critical and important decisions -and pay dearly. In fact, they are experiencing the “syndrome of Niagara.” Life is like a river, and most dive into it without really decide where they want to reach. So, after a while, they drifted by the stream of events and challenges. When they are encountering places where the river branches, they don’t consciously decide where they want to go or what is the right direction for them. They just ‘follow the flow’.

Thus, they become part of the mass of people driven from their environment rather than their values. As a result, they have the illusion that they have control of their lives. They remain in this unconscious state until one day the furious sound of water awakens and they discover that they are in a boat without oars, two meters from the edge of Niagara Falls.

At that moment, they shout: “Oh no!” But it’s too late -and falling. Sometimes the fall is emotional, while other times is physical or financial. Maybe you could avoid any challenges you are facing right now in your life if you had taken better decisions when you were still in the calm area of the river.


  2. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!, Tony Robbins

Motivation can be hard to come by, especially in the face of challenges or difficult work.

When you’re thinking about implementing that new idea, or starting that new company or beginning that new regimen — this is the new year, after all — it’s easy to talk yourself into procrastinating. Or worse, avoiding your goal altogether.

Thoughts are powerful, and negative thoughts can prevent you from achieving your goals. The flip side is that positive thoughts can be just as powerful. The next time you feel unmotivated, use any of these 50 positive thoughts to reenergize yourself. Really: They work!

1. I can do anything. It’s a simple phrase, but it helps to remind yourself — you really can do anything you set your mind to.

2. This is why I can. Instead of giving yourself reasons why you can’t do something, give yourself reasons why you can.

3. I deserve more. You deserve a better life — whether that means a better job, a healthier body or more money. Work for it.

4. It’s never too late. No matter how old you are or how many opportunities you’ve passed up before, it’s never too late to make a decision and get a fresh start.

5. There will always be challenges. No matter what you do in life, there will always be challenges — don’t let one set get the better of you.

6. There’s no “perfect” time. If you’re waiting for the perfect moment, forget about it — there’s no such thing.

7. There’s no perfect plan. There are some definite flaws in your plan — but there are in every plan.

8. Everybody starts somewhere. Nobody is born successful. Everyone starts somewhere, and usually from the bottom.

9. One step at a time. Don’t try to do everything at once. Reduce it to baby steps.

10. It can only get better. If it’s hard at first, it can only get easier.

11. Failure is temporary. If you fail, you’re in good company — most successes come only after several rounds of failure.

12. Mistakes are learning opportunities. If you mess up, you can only become better for it.

13. Today is all I can control. Forget about what you did yesterday. Today is what matters.

14. If it were easy, everyone would do it. Nothing worth doing is easy.

15. “Someday” is today. If you’re like most people, you use the word “someday” to describe your goals and desires. Make today that someday.

16. Negative thoughts can’t stop me. Your negative thoughts are just thoughts — nothing more.

17. I’ve done harder things. Think back to a time when you succeeded against the odds.

18. Everything has to be earned. You can’t get anything in this life unless you work hard for it.

19. Action is a better regret than inaction. Making the wrong decision is always preferable to regretting never having done anything at all.

20. I don’t need anyone’s permission. If people think you’re crazy, so be it.

21. I’m in control of my own destiny. You can decide whom you want to become.

22. There is no pass or fail. Nobody is grading you. You can’t objectively “fail” at life unless you never try anything.

23. Boring decisions get boring results. Make an exciting decision.

24. The risk is worth it. Know that risks are real, but the potential benefits are worth them.

25. Discipline feels better than regret. Discipline is hard, but it’s easier to deal with than regret.

26. Many good ideas seem crazy or impossible at first. Yours is no different.

27. I’ve got support. Friends, family, colleagues — even if they think you’re crazy, you can always find support in networking groups, support groups and other community resources.

28. Experience is always valuable. Even if your mission doesn’t turn out the way you’d expected, you’ll walk away with experience.

29. Hard work is its own reward. You’ll feel good just for making the attempt.

30. Every day counts. Today, tomorrow and the next day are all steps toward your end goal.

31. What I see matters more than what others see. Forget about what others think — prioritize what you think.

32. There is no problem that can’t be overcome. Everything can be solved or worked around.

33. Ordinary actions make an ordinary life. Nobody wants to be ordinary. Don’t let yourself be.

34. Everything can be improved. Even if you start out rough, you can always make improvements to your approach.

35. I can learn whatever I need to know. Free resources are plentiful.

36. I can master whatever I need to do. Practice can make you good at anything.

37. Willpower is all in my head. You can have all the willpower you want — you just have to want it.

38. I know what I want. Know what your end goals are, and visualize them.

39. Feelings are the product of thoughts. If you’re scared or unsure, know that these are feelings generated by your thoughts; then you can control them.

40. Trying and failing is better than doing nothing. This is universally true.

41. I am whomever I want to be. There’s nothing stopping you from being whom you want to be.

42. I can’t win unless I try. Effort is the only way to get results.

43. My life is a product of my decisions. Make the ones that matter.

44. I’m better than I was yesterday. You’re older, wiser and more experienced than you’ve ever been before.

45. Nothing great happens overnight. Work and patience are your friends.

46. Once I get started, it will be easier. You’ll feel more motivated once you get rolling.

47. I’ll reward myself when I’m done. Even small rewards can be great motivators.

48. I’m doing this for more than just me. Maybe it’s for your family or community — whatever “it” is, external motivation can be powerful.

49. There are always more chances. If you screw up, you can always try again.

50. If nothing else, this will make for a good story. You’ll walk away with great memories and interesting anecdotes.

The power of positive thinking isn’t just an adage — it’s scientifically proven that positive thoughts (and the elimination of negative self-talk) can improve your mood, feelings, and performance. These thoughts should get you started doing whatever it is you need motivation to do. The rest is up to you.

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Jayson DeMers is founder and CEO of AudienceBloom, a Seattle-based SEO agency. He also started, a lyrics-humor website. He’s the author of the ebook, “The Definitive Guide to Marketing Your Business Online.”

Most people are aware that our brains operate in two general ways – the conscious and the subconscious.

The conscious mind controls our regular, day to day activities. Things like driving a car, writing down a note, or eating your food are all controlled by the conscious mind. Your brain sends direct instructions to your muscles to take certain actions.

The subconscious mind is a much more mysterious place. It is hard to put ones finger on exactly what it does, because by definition it is acting behind the scenes. We know the subconscious mind holds incredible power over our actions, but exactly what all it can influence is something of a mystery.

This article will present you with four lesser known secrets of the subconscious mind.

It ‘Steals’ from the Conscious Mind

When we said that driving a car is controlled by the conscious mind that should have come with a disclaimer. When you first start out, driving is an activity that your conscious mind controls. As you gain experience, however, that actions that driving requires start to slip into the subconscious. You no longer require conscious thought to use the clutch, shift gears, or signal a lane change. All of those things become second nature, and as such are controlled by the subconscious. By extension, you could say that anything, given time and practice, could be moved successfully from the conscious to the subconscious mind.

It Drives Our Behaviors

If you stop and take a close look at your daily life, you will be amazed at how many decisions you actually make throughout the day. Things that you never even give a moment’s pause to consider are actually decisions being made by your subconscious mind. Something like deciding to brush your teeth before bed is a great example. If you habitually brush your teeth before bed, it will soon become a subconscious activity. You likely don’t stop and consider the pro and cons of teeth brushing before getting out your toothbrush. In fact, your conscious mind is likely other places while your subconscious guides you through the motions of getting your teeth brushed.

It Gives Us Belief

Often when faced with a challenging or nerve-wracking situation, it is our subconscious mind that comes through to tell us we can do it. As we go through life, our subconscious is accumulating memories of times when we have succeeded and storing them for use later on. Even if you are faced with a situation that you have never encountered before, your subconscious can push you on because it remembers times when you have conquered a new obstacle. For this reason it is important to consistently place yourself in uncomfortable positions that require you to call on your self-belief. Each time you rise to the occasion that subconscious confidence grows even further. Before long, you will have built a base of self-assurance that can get you through any new challenge.

It Can Be Accessed Through Meditation

While the subconscious is a hard thing pinpoint, you can get much closer to it through a regular practice of meditation. When you meditate, your mind is able to cut through all of the ‘noise’ of daily life and find peace within. In those peaceful moments is when you will be able to strongly feel what your subconscious is telling you. If you are not happy with the messages your subconscious sends you throughout the day, use meditation to dig deeper and uncover what the true issues may be. From there, you will feel the power to re-program your subconscious mind and lead it in a direction that is more productive and useful toward your goals in life.

if you know any other secrets of the subconscious mind, feel free to share in the comments below!

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