We all know that life sometimes can become unbearable. We may feel that everything is falling apart around us.

Work, money, family, friends… all these things can contribute to the stress of life. When you feel that your whole world is falling apart, you have to learn how to stop and evaluate the situation.

It’s not easy, but it’s possible if you do the right things.

Take time to pray

Or, if it is not something you apply, you can spend some time in your day to focus on your positive energy. You will be surprised how much calmer and concentrated you feel by forcing yourself to devote a minute to focus on all the positive energy around you and within you.

Worry less

Worrying creates anxiety and makes it hard to do what you need to do. Try to focus on the steps needed to be taken to fix any problem or challenge that has arisen. If you have lost your job, worrying about how to pay your bills will not make more money to your bank account.

Instead of worrying, make a plan on how to go ahead. Put all your energy and do not let yourself sink into negativity.

Pain is temporary

No matter what you are going through right now, be it money problems, family problems or emotional collapse, remember that the pain you feel is temporary. Remember that you have not always felt that way, and you will be able to handle it more easily, instead of letting it crush you.

The problems of others are not your responsibility

When you feel that your own life is burdened with a lot of issues, remember that you shouldn’t take the burden of other people’s problems. Being open and available to help others when they need is definitely a good thing. However, you have to make sure that you set limits and you do not allow other people’s problems to become your responsibility, especially when you have serious problems yourself.

Move forward

When you feel your life is falling apart, the only possible direction is to move forward. Even when it seems impossible for you, you have to remember that you can rise again and continue trying for the best. A failure on the road doesn’t mean that all your plans should be derailed. Life can be tough but you are stronger than the challenges it brings.

Cry

Sometimes, it’s OK to cry when you need it. When things go wrong or when sadness becomes overwhelming, it is natural to want to cry. To give in to your feelings does not make you weak. Often, you will find that once you let yourself let go and cry, it clears your mind and you are able to take the next logical step forward on your journey.

Look for the positive in every situation

When life is falling apart around you, it can be hard to keep seeing the positive side of a situation. Try to see the sun behind the clouds.

If you have a bad break up, try to see it as a new opportunity to find the right partner. If you lose your job, see it as a chance to re-start your life with a career you really love.

Do not let yourself sink into pessimism. A positive view can completely transform your life.

Feel gratitude

When things are falling apart, it can be hard to see what things in your life do not go wrong. Take a moment to think about the things in your life that are stable, and all that you are grateful for.

Your ability to think positively will help you see your problems from a different perspective. If you lost your job, be grateful for the people who support you. If you have family difficulties, take the time to appreciate your partner.

Everyone has problems

Sometimes, it’s relieving to know that you are not the only one facing challenges. Remind yourself that there are people who have gone through the same or worst storms than you, giving you the boost you need to move forward.

H/T: Flow Magazine

Every individual human is different from everyone else. There are no two people the same, however, we all aspire to achieve one thing in life: Success.

Many people have many different definitions and ideas of what a successful life is. Most people these days visualize success as wealth. They believe that without having all the money they will never be successful. Most people take way too much pride in materialistic objects these days, but others have a more realistic view of what success is.

To me, success is having people you love around you and not having to stress about worldly issues. To simply be content with life is success to me, and many other people believe the same. No matter what you believe is success, simply having ambitions in life shows that you are a persevering person – and that’s what truly counts!

One author has studied what a successful life is for quite some time now. Travis Bradberry states,

“Too many people measure how successful they are by how much money they make or the people that they associate with. In my opinion, true success should be measured by how happy you are.”

You shouldn’t be visualizing success as a status of wealth. Living a successful life is much more than having all the objects you want; it’s having people to love, that love you, and to share memories with. All in all, people who have ambitions are already living a successful life. You probably are too, you just don’t realize it! These are 8 signs that you are living a successful life!

1. You Have Ambitions

People who have ambitions are already successful people. You should never give up on what you truly want out of life. Never give up on your dreams and keep persevering to get to where you want. People who continue working on their dreams are considered to be successful already.

2. You’re Alive

One of the most successful things we can have in life is a healthy body. If you are alive and healthy you are already doing fantastic. Take advantage of life and youthfulness.

3. You’re Always Improving

Life is always throwing us obstacles. It seems almost as soon as we overcome one mountain we are on our way up another. However, successful people don’t let this get in their way. They are always moving on and bettering themselves. Even through the hard times, they are gaining strength and learning.

4. You Have People That Love You

Aside from success, most people are aspiring to achieve love in their life. If you already have people that love you, most of the population already view you as one of the richest in the world. Anyone can make money but not everyone can maintain positive relationships.

5. You’re Forgiving

Forgiveness is essential to your personal happiness. Many people have the idea these days that forgiveness is for the one who wronged you, but it’s not. Forgiveness only benefits you. Successful people are able to forgive the ones who wronged them and move on in their life to be happy.

6. You Have a Home

One thing the western society certainly takes for granted is a home to go home too. A good portion of the world has to worry about where they’ll be sleeping tonight, so if you don’t consider yourself lucky – and successful.

7. You Have Clothes to Wear

Just like a home, most of the world struggles with finding new clothes to wear. If you have a dresser and a closet full of clothes you’re considered pretty successful.

8. You Can Be Yourself

You can never be successful if you can’t be your true self. If you are successfully broadcasting a false persona to please other people you will never be happy. To be successful you must first be happy being yourself.

This article was originally appeared on Awareness Act.

How can you develop a mindset of abundance?

There is enough for everyone in this world. The future is as bright as we want it to be. Things can seem to be bad when we focus on poverty, hunger, overconsumption and overpopulation. Being in a mindset of scarcity, of only saving money, of holding on to resources, believing that there is all kinds of lack, will attract more lack. Bring change by shifting your focus, by changing your paradigm, by having a mindset of abundance instead of scarcity.

Mindset of Abundance vs Mindset of Scarcity

Sure you have felt abundant in your lifetime. The feeling that good things seem to just come to you and happen for you is accompanying a mindset of abundance. Maybe it was a period where you were giving a lot, and noticed that you did not lack anything yourself. Perhaps you went on a winning streak in poker. Or a friend of yours attracts women effortlessly? All of these are a result of an abundant state of being. If you can feel that you have something, you will attract more of it.

A mindset of scarcity is the opposite. Life will confirm to you the scarcity you are expecting to see. By thinking that you cannot, you cannot. Your experience is a projection of your perspective. By focusing on all the things you can’t do e.g. due to not having enough money, not enough time, not enough skills, a lack of physical ability and so on you will spiral downward. Turn this around before you get into the downward spiral.

You can. Abundance is everywhere.

Commercials and media can help create a belief that we need more, we need to do more and become more. That we don’t already have enough. If we could just get that thing or do that thing that we saw someone have or do, we would be a little bit better. Relax and don’t engage in this chase. Just be. Content. Abundant. Naturally.

Our Civilization

Whether we know about every crime, every war, every corrupt person or group or have been raised without any news at all, we still have the same potential for creating a new earth. By being happy. By following our hearts. By knowing abundance. There are a lot of positive and magnificent feats the human race have managed to accomplish.

Peter H. Diamandis and Steven Kotler wrote the book Abundance: The Future Is Better Than You Think. It was published in 2012 and debuted at #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list. The book envisions a future where 9 billion people have access to clean water, food, energy, health care, education, and everything else that is necessary for a first world standard of living, all thanks to technological innovation. The book is a great example of one of the infinite ways in which abundance can play out.

The book has some really good points and is recommended for anyone looking for a positive perspective on how we humans can use science and technology to create a new earth. Technologies in computing, energy and medicine are improving at an exponential rate and allow independent innovators to achieve what today seems like impossible feats with little money or manpower.

How to Shift into Abundance

Knowing that you are abundant and that life is abundance is a great paradigm to be in. There are many ways you can shift your mindset into one of abundance. Here are some:

Get in the Mindset of “I Can”

Find a way in your mind to see that you can do everything, or at least that you could if you really wanted to. Get creative and see that you are able to think of ways in which you could do whatever it might be.

Think of Everything You Could Buy with Your Money

If you have a certain amount of money, i.e. 1000$, think of all the things you are able to afford with those 1000$. Two weeks on vacation? You could probably afford that. What else? Go skydiving a couple of times, buy a really good bike, etc.

Think in terms of using 1000$ for each of the things you want, like you have an unlimited number of that amount. By doing this you get into an abundant mindset without actually spending anything.

Be Grateful

By taking a few minutes to contemplate what you are most grateful for you get into a positive state where you focus on appreciating what you already have. By putting gratitude out into the universe, you will attract even more positivity into your life.

Give

Help out someone who is in greater need than you. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, or donate to charity. You can also give to someone that has more than you or a friend of yours. Give compliments, or smiles! Free hugs!

I share this information with you, abundant with tips on how to realize you are abundant, from my abundant creative mind. I also used the abundant resource “the internet”, and as knowledge and books are abundant I got inspired by one of those as well. Inspiration is really abundant. I hope this sparked some feelings of abundance in you!

H/T: Global Harmony Crew

We live in a society that pressures us to think positive every time. In fact, even articles on this website talk about the importance of positive thinking.

Don’t get me wrong, positive thinking is great and can lead to a happier and more fulfilled life, but what about those pesky negative emotions that tend to come up from time to time?

Do we squash and ignore them with positive thinking? Do we feel guilty and ashamed for thinking negative?

If you resonated with those questions, chances are you are not alone.

Today, we are often made to feel guilty or “less than” if we are experiencing or entertaining negative thoughts.

Even in the spiritual community our negative thoughts can be chalked up to our ego, which can simply be released with a couple of conscious breaths….right?

Well, I am here to tell you that doesn’t always work.

Anger, pain and negative thinking are all necessary and important emotions that need to be valued and sometimes, need more attention than just a few deep breaths (although those can always help).

Anger, pain and negative thinking help us to express who we are and allow us to actually have a healthier state of mind. (I’ll explain more on this later.)

In fact, one of my favourite quotes by Anita Moorjani goes-

“It is more important to be yourself than it is to be positive.”

Many researchers believe that negative thinking is a sign of a healthier mind, as it is the way the body protects itself and alerts us to the fact that something is wrong.

Often when we feel anger, or depressed, it is our body’s way of letting us know that something is not right and something needs to be fixed.

Often when negative emotions are suppressed and covered with a smile, we create more resistance and push our negative emotions deeper within our body.

In time, this causes more stress, more anxiety and prolonged feelings of depression.

While you never want negative emotions to float around all the time, when they do come up it is really important to acknowledge and love them for what they are.

It is also really important to listen to them and try to understand what your mind, body and soul may be trying to communicate to you.

In fact, think of all your emotions as the way that your entire being communicates with you. Think of your emotions as your compass for how to navigate through this life and make changes or adjustments.

Often when we feel anger or other negative emotions, it is usually because on a deeper level we are feeling pain.

It is easier to feel anger and other surface emotions instead of pain, which is why we sometimes journey into those emotions and stay there.

Only until the pain is truly released can we be free of the anger and negative thinking.

Watch: Manage Your Anger

And we can only do this when we learn how to feel ok with our anger and other negative emotions.

You can achieve this by-

  1. Not being afraid of your negative thoughts and understanding that the Universe is not going to punish you for having them.
  2. Using negative thoughts as a reminder or sign that something is not right with your body, mind or soul and that something may need to be addressed.
  3. Accepting your negative emotions and allowing yourself to feel them without shame or guilt.
  4. Understanding that your negative emotions are not about you or other people, and is instead tied to a situation.
  5. Owning your negative thoughts, but then also owning the fact that you need to do something about them.

Wallowing in your own negativity is ok for a short period, but if you don’t start to shift the energy and work on healing yourself, it is just going to lead you to feeling more miserable.

One of the most powerful ways you can cut through your anger and negativity is to sit in it and allow yourself to really, really feel it with no resistance.

When you do this, you give yourself the opportunity to identify where it is coming from and how you can go about making some changes.

Another effective tool is to ask yourself- What I feeling hurt about? As often under negative emotions there is always some type of pain.

And finally, the golden rule for dealing with negativity is asking yourself-

“If I loved myself what would I do in this situation?”

This post was originally published at foreverconscious.com

By Tanaaz

A pessimist is one who builds dungeons in the air.

~ Walter Winchell

According to a British-German scientific research, negative thoughts are able to suspend the effectiveness of even the most powerful analgetics, as they don’t expect to reduce pain. In contrast, there was twice the physical or biochemical efficacy for medications combined with positive thoughts on the part of patients.

In addition, psychology studies have shown that people are born with an appeal either towards optimism or pessimism. In this contributes the social environment and the conditions in which we live.

Therefore, It’s important to understand the significance of a positive or negative attitude toward things that we have in our lives. Do we see the glass half-full or half-empty?

Can we turn pessimism into optimism? The answer of course, is yes.

Let’s just take a look at some habits of optimistic people:

  • They have a positive attitude towards life.
  • They face obstacles, frustrations and failures with the hope that everything can be corrected for the better.
  • They feel gratitude.
  • They smile often.
  • They’re trying to make those around them happy.
  • They have better social relations.
  • They stay informed and read about topics that inspire them and make them feel better.
  • They do exercise and watch their diet.
  • They socialize with happy and positive people.
  • They make more positive thoughts.
  • They realize the “good” things in their lives and make dreams.

One may reasonably wonder whether people with a greater tendency toward negativity change everything in a heartbeat. The answer this time, is no. The main precondition is the will to change their perception about life.

There should be a regular practice for some time to replace negative thoughts with positive ones, so they will approach stressful situations they face in their daily lives with optimism and realism.

To become better understood, the process could be likened to a diet. It requires willing, a nutrition program, systematic exercise, perseverance and patience. Similarly works and psychologically, to achieve an approach and understanding which will contain more optimism to achieve harmony and balance in their lives.

Below I will mention some negative thoughts that plague all people and how they can be replaced with positive thoughts that will bring about change and thus achieve optimism, hope and confidence. For example:

  • instead of saying “it’s complicated“, they can think let’s see it from a different perspective,” or in other words using the motto of psychology «think out of the box» · to think unconventionally
  • rather than worry that something “will not succeed” they can say let’s try it, and you never know
  • instead of saying “I have no time” they may think that “I need to rethink my priorities”
  • they can replace the expression “I can’t do itwith the phrase I will ask for help”
  • finally, rather than worrying because “I get nervous and I can’t do anything,” they can form the reasoning “I will defeat my anxiety”

As Aeschylus said, “It is pleasing to prolong the life of a man with beautiful hopes that with joy and optimism are filling the soul.”