Carl Jung was a profound psychologist and a deep philosophical thinker who explored all aspects of the self.

As you will see in the quotes below, Jung clearly believed that we are spiritual beings and that the complete spiritual relationship with ourselves contributes to a deeper understanding of who we are.

For some, this view translates into a religion – the search for relief in the existence of something superior to us, but, this is not the only form of spirituality, nor does it really help to reach the core of who we are (or, alternatively, who we are not).

Carl Jung was one of the most important creators of modern psychology, of depth, which attempts to facilitate a discussion with the unconscious powers within us. He contributed many ideas, which continue to prevail in contemporary theory: archetype, dream interpretation, persona, anima and animus and many more concepts.

He deeply appreciated creativity and believed that spirituality is a central part of the human journey.

25 profound Carl Jung quotes that will help you understand yourself on a deeper level

1. “Don’t hold on to someone who’s leaving, otherwise you won’t meet the one who’s coming.”

2. “The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.

3. “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

4. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”

5. “We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.”

6. “Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.”

7. “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”

8. “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious.

9. “Be grateful for your difficulties and challenges, for they hold blessings. In fact… Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for health, personal growth, individuation and self-actualisation.”

10. “People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.”

11. “A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.”

12. “There is no coming to consciousness without pain.”

13. “What you resist, persists.”

14. “Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”

15. “Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens.”

16. “We may think that we fully control ourselves. However, a friend can easily reveal something about us that we have absolutely no idea about.”

17. “Depression is like a woman in black. If she turns up, don’t shoo her away. Invite her in, offer her a seat, treat her like a guest and listen to what she wants to say.”

18. “When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.”

19. “In all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order.”

20. “A dream is a small hidden door in the deepest and most intimate sanctum of the soul, which opens up to that primeval cosmic night that was the soul, long before there was the conscious ego.”

21. “Man’s task is to become conscious of the contents that press upward from the unconscious.”

22. “It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves.”

23. “If you are a gifted person, it doesn’t mean that you gained something. It means you have something to give back.”

24. “If one does not understand a person, one tends to regard him as a fool.”

25. “Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune.”

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Overcoming Victim Consciousness through Forgiveness

Many of us may be on a path of spiritual and/or self-development and growth. However, we can still get caught up in victim consciousness without realizing it. We may be practicing deep awareness and be able to watch our responses to our life situations. Yet, we may still not be free of archetypal victimization patterns passed down through our ancestors.

Sometimes, we need to dig deep to realize. What is at the bottom of our limiting and false beliefs is a sense of being made out to be a victim. Further, this victimization served us in the past. So, our ego will still try and lock into this default setting with its deep roots to get sympathy. We seek love, affection, recognition, and a myriad of other things the ego may need to inflate its sense of self-worth.

Self-Love and Courage to Balance the Sense of Loss

Self-forgiveness, which is not a well-known practice to many of us, can be a wonderful way to release some of these ties to victim consciousness. As we are all energetically connected, self-healing through forgiveness can also heal ancestral and current victim patterns in those around us. However, letting ourselves off the hook for past mistakes is no easy task.

And it takes enormous work at times. We need self-love, courage, and the desire to remove the feeling of a being a victim, even to our own selves. It takes focus on our heart center, on the feeling of love, and the looping of that feeling through our solar plexus (our power center) and then back through our heart center. It takes filling our hearts with love for ourselves. We might choose to give ourselves the same love that we so generously offer to others. This puts us on a much better plane to offer ourselves forgiveness, as well.

Heal Victim Consciousness with Forgiveness and Boundaries

Another huge part of releasing victim consciousness is through the forgiveness of others. Colin Tipping’s Radical Forgiveness is a most incredible teaching on how to engage in this practice on a soul level. Colin talks about viewing the transgressions of others that we are so hurt and angered by as perfect interactions that our high-self sets up for us to heal ourselves. So that what happens “to” us is changed to what happens “for” us. When realize this, we can release the anger around what happened and release the feelings of needing the other person to “pay”, and thus we release our mindset around being a victim.

We must learn to say no to things that we don’t want to do. Start by accepting that we are going to disappoint people we love sometimes. They will recover from this are “tip of the iceberg“ steps that can be taken in order not to develop resentment towards others that puts us on a train eventually bound for victim-land. It seems almost an ingrained, cultural and societal construct that we people-please and are afraid to say no to others.

Patterns that Reinforce Victim Consciousness

We don’t want to hurt the feelings of those we care about, so we say yes. By agreeing to ways we don’t want to be spending our time, this devalues what our experiences mean to us. Observe these long-standing patterns and take steps to turn the tide toward honoring our time. Being open and honest with one another can bring small steps that will help to heal the bigger picture of victim consciousness.

And once we start seeing the little things that make us feel trapped, we get more used to the inner exploration. This observance of our own patterns tells us how we get what we want and need. Most often we are unaware of just how frequently we might fall prey to playing the victim. We might tell ourselves “I am so alone” when we simply have a feeling of loneliness.

Ways to Refrain from Prejudicial Chatter

We may tell our self “no one understands me” after one conversation with someone who just wasn’t getting us. We may say “everyone is always screwing me over” after one colleague didn’t follow through with something they had promised. These events activate what Eckhart Tolle terms our “pain body.” It is that part that sees ourselves as a victim, and looks for ways to serve in that role.

We can look at it from a higher-self-perspective. Simply because we feel lonely, misunderstood or hurt, we are, in fact, not a victim. We are simply our spiritual selves having a human experience of the polarization of feelings. And if we can look at it that way, without judgment of it and making ourselves out to be a victim, there will be an immensely greater amount of room for learning and healing, both of which humanity is hungry for right now. And, thus, we establish ourselves as part of the shift away from victim consciousness.

This article was originally created and published on OMTimes.

About the author

Heather O’Neill is a personal life coach and Reiki Master Teacher. She helps clients throw out their head trash. Heather, an empath and intuitive, works on clearing energetic blocks to reclaim personal power through choosing our thoughts rather than our thoughts choosing us. As a certified Law of Attraction coach, Heather has a keen understanding of how to work with the universal laws to create lives that unfold as we truly want them to. Heather helps clients go beyond egoic reactions to life’s challenges and to see them from the broader perspective of the high-self, which enables us to experience the most growth heatheroneillcoaching.com.

Are you playing video games? There are some good reasons why you should start from now on.

People often associate playing video games as a fun but unproductive way to spend time. However, recent studies have shown that games can actually have a positive impact and help with learning or cultivating skills.

Here are some interesting findings:

Reflexive and spatial skills

A journal article published on Education and Health listed some of the educational benefits of playing video games. Aside from the known effects such as faster reaction times and better hand-eye coordination, playing video games have also been shown to improve spatial and visualization skills, as well as helping to boost academic performance.

Metacognition and Self-Awareness

Jordan Shapiro theorized in an article published by Forbes that part of the learning process has to do with the metacognition – or the process in which a person can think about how they think – when playing video games. In controlling their in-game character, they learn to better develop their sense of awareness and have a better understanding of how they think.

Furthermore, they are better prepared to adapt to situations because they learn how to do so when overcoming the various obstacles they encounter in-game. These skills, in turn, can have a positive effect on their academic performance. It has also been shown to help improve the focus of those who have attention deficit disorders.

Social skills

Huffington Post cites some studies that indicate that video games can help students develop not just academic-related skills, but also emotional ones. The interesting thing is that they are not just limited to games designed for learning. Off-the-shelf games, including action games, can help them develop many different skills. Games that mimic real life are particularly valuable because they provide players with lessons on how the real world works.

Meanwhile, fiction-based games, especially fantasy-themed titles, encourage players to use their imaginations, which can fuel their creativity. Playing with other peers, whether offline or online, can aid them in learning how to deal with different sorts of people. Subconsciously, they end up picking up all sorts of skills that they can use not just in-game, but in a real-world setting.

Learning, Multi-Tasking, and Decision-Making

Due to the many advantages playing video games can yield, it is not surprising then that the education sector is now bringing video games into the classroom. The American Psychological Association suggests that nearly 60 percent of educators make use of digital games when teaching their students.

Furthermore, the same medium is used to evaluate their level of understanding of the topics discussed in classrooms and lecture halls at major universities.

In fact, learning through video games is no longer limited to university students. Even employees are now being trained using interactive titles. Bottomline Performance even says that popular flash games can actually subconsciously train staff on a variety of job skills. For instance, handling various “missions” in a game can teach them multi-tasking skills.

Gaming sites can also help improve their decision-making skills. For instance, innovative digital platform Slingo pits players against virtual dealers to give them the feeling of playing in a real-life casino. It removes the robotic feel of the usual gaming scenarios online and puts them in a setting akin the pressure cooker of facing a real life croupier. The player then needs to think quickly on their feet, and this can ultimately help improve their decision-making skills over a long period of time depending on their results.

Conclusion

While the above variables indicate the various benefits that people can get from playing video games, it should be noted that researchers still advise players to only limit themselves to a couple of hours per day. But with the new immersive and educational games that are coming out every day, the world is slowly coming to the opinion that video games aren’t that bad after all.

Guest Article, by Mark Davies.

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Do you have a personal manual of life principles to live by? What adages do you use to guide you in your everyday living?

Today, we’d like to share a list of 21 principles of life to live by from Japanese Buddhist master and expert swordsmen Miyamoto Musashi.

These rules are deeply relevant to our lives today. They explain the Buddhist way of life so brilliantly, helping us to live a life of purpose, meaning and detachment.

But before we show you Mushashi’s 21 rules of life, let’s talk about who the great man named Miyamoto Mushashi was.

Who was Miyamoto Musashi?

Mushashi was a Japanese Buddhist master and expert swordsmen who fought many duels in the seventeenth century.

He authored a famous book called The Book of Five Rings which is still studied today for its wisdom and philosophy on how to live “the way of the warrior”.

Musashi was also famous for developing the below 21 rules of life, which describe concisely how to live a life that is purpose driven but non-attached.

How can you use this list?

Even though this list has 21 points, don’t overwhelm yourself by reading and applying all the points right away. These principles are meant to be read and reflected on over time, as opposed to being a checklist that you tick and check off. As you read each point, think about the truth behind this principle, how it applies to your life, and the actions you should take in light of this principle.

Miyamoto Musashi’s 21 Rules of Life

So without further ado, here are Musashi’s 21 rules of life. Each line contains a different idea one would live by. Enjoy!

“1. Accept everything just the way it is.

2. Do not seek pleasure for its own sake.

3. Do not, under any circumstances, depend on a partial feeling.

4. Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world.

5. Be detached from desire your whole life long.

6. Do not regret what you have done.

7. Never be jealous.

8. Never let yourself be saddened by a separation.

9. Resentment and complaint are appropriate neither for oneself nor others.

10. Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love.

11. In all things have no preferences.

12. Be indifferent to where you live.

13. Do not pursue the taste of good food.

14. Do not hold on to possessions you no longer need.

15. Do not act following customary beliefs.

16. Do not collect weapons or practice with weapons beyond what is useful.

17. Do not fear death.

18. Do not seek to possess either goods or fiefs for your old age.

19. Respect Buddha and the gods without counting on their help.

20. You may abandon your own body but you must preserve your honour.

21. Never stray from the Way.”

This article was originally posted on Hack Spirit.

Photo: Adawak

We often meet people who want recognition from others so that they are happy. Also, we observe the paradox that these people are unhappy.

But what is it that actually causes their unhappiness?

My answer is that these people are dependent, and their dependence as such is the source of their unhappiness.

Here I would like to give a definition of this dependence, from my favorite author and colleague, Jorge Bucay:

A dependent is one who is hanging on someone else, living hanged in the air, without leaning anywhere. Permanently incomplete. Depending mean I am willingly surrendering to the other to do me what he wants, to lead me, to regulate my behavior and feelings according to his own will, and not mine.

And that’s exactly what these people do: they depend their happiness on the recognition they may get from others. They have voluntarily granted this right to others. But they can’t always please everyone, and that’s what makes them unhappy. This dependence is satisfaction and suffering at the same time.

Why do these people desperately ask for recognition?

What has happened to those people and behave in this way? They are either people who have not been properly trained by their parents to become masters of their lives, independent and responsible for their choices; or, they have experienced constant negative comments, resulting in low self-esteem. It’s not uncommon for both to happen at the same time.

Watch: Improve Your Self-Esteem

It is likely, therefore, that these individuals have lived in a critical and rejecting environment, with constant suggestions and remarks when they made a mistake, without being given the “space” to find the wrong or right on their own. As a result, they were slowly wondering whether something was wrong with them or they were not accepted by their own parents, their teachers or their peers. In adult life, this perception is manifested as a continuous effort to please others so that others will like them. And of course, it is natural to place the needs of others above their own, in order to gain favor and recognition.

These people are willing to compromise with less than what they deserve, just to experience the satisfaction of the recognition, and they are constantly concerned about the opinion of others. In fact, what they can’t stand is the indifference and the rejection that they have already experienced in their tender childhood. They think only then will they be happy.

Respectively, people who have lived in families that always overprotected them, and rushed to correct their mistakes and fill the imperfections, didn’t have the opportunity to become independent and responsive to their choices. They didn’t have the opportunity to learn how to take responsibility for their behavior and feelings, and ultimately, their own self. This resulted in a continuous emptiness because they are not self-sufficient. They seek to fill this personal emptiness with positive comments and the recognition from others as they were fulfilled as children by the admiration, continued presence, or even the control of their parents.

The older ones were saying that it’s not enough to give a fish to someone who is hungry, but it would be better to give him a fishing rod and teach him to fish so that he won’t be hungry tomorrow. These parents didn’t teach their children how to “fish” on their own and these children -adults today, are “hungry” for recognition from others that will “fill” them and they will feel fulfilled and happy.

And finally, there are people who have confused recognition with love and acceptance. Since the only possible attention they received was the reward and recognition of their achievements and successes. So, we could say that this category of people thirsts for love, but thinks that it will quench this thirst with more recognition.

Self-awareness is the solution

It is important for the people who belong to each of these three categories, to realize that the only solution is to take responsibility for themselves. To take back all the powers they have given to others. To understand that expressing their dissatisfaction, anger, and even expectations, is just as important as trying to be permanently likable. And finally, to find and love themselves.

I don’t say we should become antisocial, unconscious or absolute. We can always listen to the words of others without relying on them, as we can always record in our minds the opinion of others about us, without depending on it. It is our responsibility to defend ourselves against others when they are tough towards us; not to change them or to constantly trying to change ourselves in order to finally have their recognition and approval. People who are self-reliant and recognize their own true value without comparing or asking for recognition from others are difficult to handle them and make them unhappy.

Self-awareness, therefore, plays an important role. When I know what my strengths and weaknesses are, when I know that I am unique and special, I will not allow myself to become another person in order to please those around me for the sake of recognition and satisfaction. I can be happy with what I am and evolve, change whenever I judge as appropriate or continue to frustrate myself, condemned by myself, for giving others authority to judge me, criticize and define my value every time.

By Faih Mauromatti, Psychologist, Play Therapist, Art Play Therapy

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