What are the habits of people with high self-confidence?

Confidence can be described as a belief in one’s ability to succeed. Striking a healthy balance can be challenging. Too much of it and you can come off as cocky and stumble into unforeseen obstacles, but having too little can prevent you from taking risks and seizing opportunities—in school, at work, in your social life, and beyond.

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Have you ever met someone who mesmerized you only with his presence? In the way he speaks, stands, sits… Some people exude dazzling, glamorous qualities and features that attract others. Others may more or less, lack such perceptible qualities.

But when those shining people speak, they charm. When they talk, everyone is listening. There is a mutual connection -not always in an erotic way, which leaves us with the feeling of wanting more of them. You can call it as you like: self-confidence, charisma, charm, magnetism, elegance etc. But it is certain that those people have that “something” that others love to worship.

The following are the most common behaviors of people with high self-confidence:

1. Proper Body Language

These people expose and use this feature as they move around. This does not mean that they feel self-confident at all times and everywhere, but that they understand the importance of appearing in this way. In addition, they know that the right attitude, the way they are perceived, interacts with the very feeling -a connection between mind and body.

2. Honest Interest in Others

Many of us are trying to find an answer to give, while another person speaks to us. We do it because inaccurate silence is something we want to avoid and we feel unnatural -a by-product of social pressure that is surely inaccurate. True and real sincerity lies in overcoming the need to be listened as interesting persons and using this energy to deeply and truly invest in others.

3. Tendency for Exploration of Others

A one-sided conversation is not at all interesting and certainly not respected. People who understand that they all have a story and take this truth into account are more likely to attract others. So, encourage others to talk about themselves and don’t ignore the details of their life they want to share.

4. Sharing the Attention of Others

People with high self-confidence are not particularly worried if they are not the center of attention. Forget the image of the famous student in the corridors and the yard of the school; men and women with high self-confidence are the least selfish. They will generously share the attention of others; they will praise those who deserve it, and will often try to make others feel happy and motivate them.

5. Giving a Powerful Message

A strong message with a proper purpose. Their personal stories inspire us and reveal their humble and unselfish mood. So tell your story, but try framing it so that others can benefit from it.

6. Being Good Listeners

According to a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, the expression of interest and questions made participants more open to the idea of talking to the speaker and judging the conclusions of the conversation as more valid. In other words, talk less and listen more.

7. Not Feeling the Need to Be Always Right

In another study conducted by Emory University, the primitive response of the brain “fight or flight” was found to be triggered by the interest of the subject under discussion. Putting it simply, the need to be right lies deep in the human brain, especially if it’s related to our strong passions -and this is true regardless of scientific evidence or logic.

People with high self-confidence can manage their primitive feelings better; choosing to participate and really listen to a conversation regardless of the opposing points of view.

8. Starting With a Positive Mindset

Beginning our day with a positive attitude makes us navigating it easier. So, begin your conversations with a positive note, act with respect and honesty, and leave a positive aura wherever you go.

9. Not Hiding Vulnerability

Contrary to what most people believe, appearing vulnerable does not mean you are weak. This is a very human situation that is both charming and compelling. Being vulnerable without feeling bad about it makes it easier to establish trust and reveals a sense of self-confidence. It also gives a powerful message: that it is ok not to be perfect and that we don’t have to be tough with ourselves.

10. Smile More

Yes, that’s not surprising. People with high self- confidence are most of the times happier and cheerful than other, more insecure types of people. Even a slight smile will relax the atmosphere and make those around you more willing to hear what you have to say. They will also trust you more before they even hear you.

Based on the above, what do you think? Do you have high self-confidence? Do you have these features? If not, would you adopt them?

H/T: Power of Positivity

Why you should realize your self-worth as soon as possible.

Do you struggle with self-confidence? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. It’s a common issue for many and it can make your life feel like it just isn’t moving forward.

But once you snap out of it and realize your own self-worth, amazing things will happen.

Here are 10 incredible ways your life will change:

1. Your confidence reaches new heights

Once you understand the unlimited potential that exists within you, you’ll begin to recognize your awesome talents and skills. You’ll believe in who you are and self-doubt will no longer be a hindrance.

2. Good people will radiate towards you

A funny thing happens when you realize your own value. Good people will be attracted to you. They’ll want to hang with you because of the good vibes you generate together.

3. You stop being needy

You won’t be dependent on anyway else because you’ll know who you are and what you want in life. You’ll have your shit covered.

4. What you truly want becomes your priority

Rather than trying to impress others, you’ll focus on your goals. You know exactly what you want to achieve in this lifetime.

5. You bask in your alone time

Rather than needing company to make yourself feel secure, you’ll enjoy your alone time. This will make you less needy as you know you’ll be fine in solitude.

6. You’ll spend time with the right guys

You’ll let go of those shitty guys who have been making your life miserable. Only the genuine and confident guys can truly handle a confident woman. The insensitive and immature guys will be left for dust!

7. Only those you deserve will come into your life

Just how good people will be attracted to you, so will good guys. The sensitive, respectful and light-hearted guys will be all over you.

8. You become more friendly

As you’re fine with who you are, you’ll be less likely to negatively judge others. You’ll only feel compassion and kindness.

9. You live a healthy lifestyle

Because you’ll have a better relationship with yourself, you’ll treat your body with love.

10. You stand up for yourself

You’ll defend what you believe in because you won’t doubt yourself. You know what’s right and what’s not and you’ll let the world know it.

What do you think? Is it worth to realize your self-worth? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

This article was originally created and published by Truth Inside of You and re-posted here with permission.

Nobody will make you feel good about yourself if you don’t believe in yourself first, and nobody will break down the image you have for yourself, if you are sure of how capable and strong you are. Self-confidence is your most valuable weapon and the starting point for each movement and step.

The moments you feel that your confidence is “hurted” are the moments where you feel weaker, and the moments that you stand firmly on your feet are the moments where your confidence is solid. A solid confidence is the ticket to the life that you are destined to do. It is important not to let it at low levels because with it, you fall too low also.

How can you keep your morale and self-confidence high?

Here are some important tips that will help you regain your self-confidence:

Believe In Yourself

Believe in yourself, because what you think about yourself is exactly what you are. The power of your mind is greater than you believe and your self-esteem is affected much more from your mind rather than your real strengths and capabilities. The moment you realize that your forces are more and bigger than you think, will be the moment you feel more liberated, confident and stronger than ever.

Live Your Life as Only YOU Know

Live your life with the unique way that only you can live it. Do not try to impersonate someone else, because you will surely fail. Do not camouflage yourself to look like the people around you, because again you will fail and you will lose your time and life to something fruitless and futile.

If you were a lion, you wouldn’t pretend to be a sheep because firstly it’s impossible, and, secondly, it has no meaning. The fact that you resemble in appearance to other people, that you have two hands and two feet, does not mean that you are the same with them. Don’t try to imitate anyone and don’t expect anyone to imitate you. You are unique, like everyone else.

Be Authentic

Most times in life, we pretend to be something else, considering that this “something else” makes people love us, and the more loved is this “other self”, the more we forget the genuine self. Find – as long as you need to do, your real self and stay credible to him. It’s not something easy, and as the years passing, it’s more likely to have been “covered” with a bunch of masks, but it’s worth, more than anything, the fatigue and effort.

Try for one week to dress, treat and act the way you truly feel and your means let you and you will see that your confidence will rise sharply, and your smile from the freedom that you feel will go up to the sky.

Accept Yourself

Love yourself first and then others, accept your reality and everything will seem more normal, even if you are completely different from the average. Nobody is born perfect and nobody has found happiness by not first accepting who really is. Realize your truth and once you succeed on that, you will have confidence and strength to achieve anything you want and crave in your life, because you will be aware until where your limits are.

Watch: The Vibration of Love

Do Not Disappoint Yourself

Losing a fight (e.g. failing in a job) is in the “schedule”. But to start like a loser from a low self-esteem is the greatest betrayal that you can commit against yourself. Your self-confidence and self-esteem are the most powerful weapons against the circumstances and if you always start like a loser, then you definitely will never go out winner. Do not disappoint yourself by believing what others say, as they consciously or unconsciously trying to discourage you. The little voice inside you is stronger than any other voice from the outside.

Make Big Plans

You determine your life and the course you will have on this planet, so do not ever start your movements tentatively and with fear because until there you will manage to reach. Aim high and if you don’t succeed you will get a valuable lesson. In any event you will be winner and definitely more powerful.

H/T: inspireyourlife.gr

One becomes “energy vampire” when he plays roles through which tries to remove energy from others and not give.

There are many everyday conscious and unconscious techniques that people use to remove energy from others. The book “The Celestine Prophecy” does a good categorization of these control dramas.

They are four:

The first is the role of “victim“, through which the person tries through techniques of “regret me the poor little”, or “I, the underclass”, etc., to grab the attention of others, so the energy them. Often patients have such behavior.

The second is the role of “distant“, not talking too much, or make the uninterested, or leaves (to let others run behind him and concern about him), trying to get noticed, and hence pull the energy of others.

The third is the role of “interrogator“, ie one is trying to put another in an apologetic position, to make him accountable, forbidding this way his power, therefore his energy. Many become interrogators unconsciously when trying to abdicate their responsibilities. Also, the interrogator is one that indicate to others their faults by making them feel “smaller“. Another interrogative technique is when one makes a lot of questions requiring answers. In this way, an interrogator “sucks” your vital energy.

The fourth is the role of the “terrorist“, who by violence and with his voice trying to take control, with psychological blackmail etc. Usually, the victims attract terrorists and vice versa, while distants attract interrogators and vice versa. Someone, let’s say, become a coward because he’s afraid to face a terrorist because the terrorist makes him even more terrified. The terrorist challenge more to the other, the victim’s behavior, and thus is created between the energetic relationship of power-control, a bond like energetic tentacles between the three lower chakras of the individuals concerned. The interrogator, on the other, with questions addressed in the distant, type of “but what you have to tell me, tell me!” as many couples do. So one makes him even more distant.

The challenge is to recognize these roles, so we ourselves not taking part in such competitions of energy! Do not pamper, say, a sick person who is constantly whining. Because, by this way he accommodated to his illness and he like it, a not honorable thing for the wholeness of His Self. Or, to not ask continuously a “distant”, ‘why are you like that?’. We must maintain in any case our confidence without being afraid what the other may be misunderstood. And of course, to not be interrogators about the mistakes we think we see, nor to engage in psychological blackmail etc.

A very important point is to have confidence. To be in our center without being affected by the behavior of others, who sometimes go to fool us, make us angry, etc. The issue is not to expel what we consider negative, but to constantly create positivity. This way, if we do not water the weeds, they will simply wither!

Here is a short video clip from the movie “The Celestine Prophecy”, the author of the book and film director, James Redfield.

 

Do you find yourself “playing” any of the above control dramas? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

References:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Celestine-Prophecy-An-Adventure/dp/0446671002

http://www.elenastral.com/2008/11/blog-post_2688.html